All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

participate in such Haraam acts, merely on account that 
everyone else is. If she does not attend gatherings where 
Haraam acts are perpetrated then do not force her to go in fear 
of what others will say. Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi 
(rahmatullah alayh) used to say that in such cases the man must 
clearly mention to the others (if and when they ask him) that he 
does not accept invitations or attend functions where the Laws 
of Allaah Ta`ala are being transgressed. 
Do not abandon your Deeni etiquette when inculcating 
Deen into your wife

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you? Why should you be upset when our wife does not attend 
local functions and intermingle with the local women, who 
indulge in Haraam backbiting or some un-Islaamic custom? Do 
not insist that she do according to your bidding, if it is against 
the Shariah. Do not coerce her to attend these gatherings in fear 
of what others will say. Is it correct to please others at the risk 
of harming your Imaan? We leave you to answer this obvious 
question. 
3). 
If your wife adopts full and total hijaab from your 
brothers, cousins and friends (i.e. all 
ghair-mahram
men), and 
she does not attend gatherings where such people and men in 
general are present, why should you insist that she attend, 
thereby making her an object of show? If all the others bring 
their wives and make them objects of show, why should you 
feel ‘deprived’ and fear their questions? 
You must remember that all such Haraam and un-Islaamic acts 
invites the anger and wrath of Allaah Ta`ala, brings misfortune 
to your worldly life and earns for you grave punishment in the 
hereafter.
May Allaah Ta`ala protect us all. When your wife comes from 
her parent’s home, such that she adopts proper Islaamic Hijaab 
and not a mere customary one, then you should never force her 
or insist that she open her face when she rides with you in the 
car, walk in the street or stand in your shop! 
Hadhrat Mufti Wali Hasan Saheb, (rahmatullah alayh), one of 
our seniors used to always say, 
“Alas, you foolish ones! Why do 
you not hide your wives? This will be to your benefit and they 
will be a beauty to your homes. Conceal them and do not bring 
them before all and sundry. What an evil thing that our Muslim 
men strut around with their unconcealed wives and all the 
street men and strangers ogle at her and derive satisfaction 
thereby.”
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Just consider this…when you allow your wife to strut around 
uncovered, and a hundred men look at her. This amounts to 200 
eyes deriving Haraam pleasure and involving themselves in sin. 
In all this, you are the sole cause of this total sin. Just think of 
the havoc you will be causing by allowing your wife to display 
herself, all dolled up and beautified. When other men look at 
your ‘beautiful’ wife, then they look at her with lust and 
compare her to their wives and rue the fact that their wives do 
not appear so attractive. Your brothers and cousins will look at 
your wife and wish that she was theirs. Here again, you are 
cause of all this sin and Haraam thoughts. These men then 
become dejected with their own wives and this leads to strife 
and arguments in their homes. Allaah Ta`ala forbid, but many 
such arguments can lead up in divorce. Here again, you are the 
cause of all this.
Just think of how much of sin you have now earned for yourself 
and also consider the ill-effects all this will have on your own 
life and happiness. May Allaah Ta`ala save us all and guide us 
to lead our lives in strict accordance to His Will. Aameen. 
4). 
If your wife does not attend the cinema and participate 
in taking or looking at photographs, because all such acts are 
Haraam, then you should never force or coerce her to