All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Three golden rules in order to live amicably with your wife
In order for a husband to be able to live amicably with his wife, 
regardless of their problems or his dislikes of her, he should 
keep in mind and implement the following salient advices: 
1. 
He should protect his gaze. If a man does not protect his 
gaze and looks at other women, then regardless of how pretty 
his own wife may be, shaitaan always tempts him with others. 
When he regards every woman who dons make-up and attends 
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beauty parlours to be prettier than his wife, then he will lead a 
miserable life. This is a severe illness and flaw in one’s Deeni 
character. May Allaah Ta`ala save us all from the evil of the 
eyes. A man should also take particular care to save his gaze 
from 
na-mahram 
family women, like cousins, sisters-in-law, 
etc. 
2. 
He should tell himself that this (wife) has been decreed 
for him (by Allaah Ta`ala) and nothing happens without divine 
decree, therefore he should be pleased with whatever Allaah 
Ta`ala had destined for him. We should all be pleased with 
whatever Allaah Ta`ala has set out for us and make shukr to 
Him for everything. May Allaah Ta`ala grant us the 
taufeeq
to 
practice on this. 
Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi (rahmatullah alayh) said 
that the most unfortunate moment in a believer’s life is when he 
disobeys Allaah Ta`ala. For example, when he looks at a 
na-
mahram
woman and admires her beauty, leaving that of his 
own wife. If a man’s gaze does momentarily and mistakenly 
fall on a strange woman, then if Allaah Ta`ala grants him the 
intelligence, he should immediately turn his gaze away and 
think to himself that his wife is more beautiful. In fact, he 
should tell himself that his wife is the most beautiful woman in 
the entire world, nay universe. In this way, he will be 
expressing his shukr unto Allaah Ta`ala. 
3. 
Never pin your hopes on anyone (be it your parents, 
wife or children) besides Allaah Ta`ala. When any difficulty 
befall a person then he cannot pin his hopes on anyone because 
in most cases there will be disappointment in it for him. The 
same applies to the husband-wife relationship, that a man 
should not have hope in his wife if any calamity befall him. 
Insha-Allah Ta`ala, never make it that a calamity does befall, 
but if ever it does, then Allaah Ta`ala is sufficient. 

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