All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

The remedy for the foul-temper and ignorance of women
If the character and habits of your wife really get you down and 
causes you much grief, there is a remedy for it. Make her read 
some Deeni Kitaabs, let her listen to the talks of pious Ulama, 
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and perhaps get her involved in Ladies Tableegh Jamaat 
activities. You should also specify a time everyday in the house 
where some good Deeni Kitaab is read in the house, 
collectively. Insha-Allaah Ta`ala all this will have some 
positive effect on her, gradually. 
As far as possible do not make life constrained for the wife
It is the teachings of the Shariah that a man must, as far as 
possible, not make life difficult for his wife and keep her in 
comfort and ease. Together with providing for her basic needs, 
keep her happy also. If the wife does do something which is 
untoward, then forgive her and if she causes you grief, then 
adopt patience, Insha-Allaah you will be greatly rewarded by 
Allaah Ta`ala. 
Muslim men should treat and behave with their wives in the 
manner shown to us by Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). It is 
necessary that the husband not make life constrained for his 
wife. 
Do not rebuke her for every small thing. If the salt is lacking in 
the food, or the food is not prepared on time, etc., etc. bear it 
patiently. One of the harms of constantly rebuking and 
complaining is that if ever there is a genuine need to rectify 
some Deeni wrong she may be involved in, and if you counsel 
her or advise her, she will not heed your advice or listen to you. 
May Allaah Ta`ala grant us all the good guidance to bear 
patiently the flaws of our wives and allow us to live happily 
and comfortably. 
Advice for the groom’s parents
It is appropriate that every Muslim turns only to Allaah Ta`ala 
in times of difficulty and restlessness, and search for what the 
law of Allaah Ta`ala is regarding that issue. They should also 
seek clarification from the pious Ulama regarding the avenue 
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) would take in such matters. It 

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