All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

The method in inculcating good character
In order to inculcate and learn the proper Islaamic character 
desired of a husband, it is not sufficient to only read books and 
sit in sermons. It is necessary to establish a link or 
Ta`alluq
with a Sheikh-e-Kaamil. It is only when we sit in the company 
of the pious and put ourselves under their watchful eyes, do we 
learn about good character and morals. 
Do not hit the slaves of Allaah Ta`ala 
“It is reported from Ayaas bin Abdillah (radhiallahu anhu) that 
Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, ‘Do not hit the 
slavegirls (women) of Allaah…”
[Abu Dawood, Hadith 2146 / 
Mishkaat, page 282] 
Allaah Ta`ala’s intercession for ill-tempered women
Men should take careful cognisance of how nicely Allaah 
Ta`ala intercedes on behalf of women; 
“It is possible that you 
dislike something (in women) whereas Allaah has placed much 
good in it.”
Take note that Allaah Ta`ala uses the 
Amr Seegha
(command) 
to order men to treat women nicely. There is condition placed 
on this. It applies to all women at all times, be she old or 
young. 
You should consider their feelings at all times. When you get 
angry, then remember that they also have feelings.
Hadhrat Hakeemul Ummat has written that a man should not 
have such a foul temper that he gets angry at every small little 
thing with regard his wife. He should also not exercise awe 
over her and leave her constantly in fear for him. 
The remedy for the foul-temper and ignorance of women
If the character and habits of your wife really get you down and 
causes you much grief, there is a remedy for it. Make her read 
some Deeni Kitaabs, let her listen to the talks of pious Ulama, 
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and perhaps get her involved in Ladies Tableegh Jamaat 
activities. You should also specify a time everyday in the house 
where some good Deeni Kitaab is read in the house, 
collectively. Insha-Allaah Ta`ala all this will have some 
positive effect on her, gradually.