All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

parts of this book and see what the Shariah advises for a man 
when he chooses a wife.
Divorce and its consequences
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One of the main causes and reasons for the destruction of a 
child’s character and morals is the aftermath in a divorce. It is a 
generally accepted fact of life, which is accepted by all and 
sundry, that the child who opens his eyes, and does not find a 
loving and caring mother and the security of a loving father, 
will inadvertently end up in the gutters and with an evil 
character. 
Besides the lack of a loving home, the divorced mother ends up 
having to leave the home to work and fend for herself and her 
children which means that the children are shunted from pillar 
to post. This has a negative impact of the child who grows up 
insecure and ends up in the wrong company.
The Shariah enjoins that both spouses play their part in the 
household. The husband should be the one to provide food, 
clothes and shelter. He should also treat the household kindly 
and have a light-hearted attitude in the home. He should ‘play’ 
with his wife and children.
As reported by Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu anha), Nabi 
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) would assist in housework also, 
but sweeping, mending his own clothes, etc. 
If the husband finds that his wife is ‘not playing the game’ he 
should overlook her flaws and faults. If she lacks greatly I some 
Deeni aspect, then as mentioned before there is a proper 
manner which he should follow in trying to reform and rectify 
her. 
As far as possible efforts should be made to keep the household 
together rather than opt for divorce. 
Amongst the Halaal things also, there is something Allaah 
Ta`ala detests --- Divorce
We will now highlight some points regarding the topic of 
Talaaq
(divorce). As much as the Shariah detests this, it is a 
fact of life and there are ways of doing it also. 

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We have some pertinent request to make in this regard. Firstly, 
we make dua that this stage never comes in any Muslim’s life, 
but if it does come down to this situation (where the parties 
wish to separate), then please do not be hasty. Try every means 
possible to avert the situation. Consult extensively with the 
pious Ulama and Muftis. Make every possible attempt at 
reconciliation. We will cite here an excerpt from an article 
written by Hadhrat Mufti Taqi Uthmaani Saheb (daamat 
barakaatuhum): 
May Allaah Ta`ala grant us all the proper understanding of the 
Deen and may He imbibe in us the spirit to follow His Way and 
the Sunnat of Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in every step of 
ours throughout the 24 hours.