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Arguments and strife between the mother and father
One main causative factor in keeping children ignorant and 
insecure is the constant fighting and arguing of the parents. 
When the child opens his eyes in the morning and sees his 
parents fighting and arguing, then the home feels dark and 
dreary for him. He wishes and desires to leave there and spend 
the rest of his day and time with his friends, away from that 
home. Naturally a child who spends most of his time with 
friends, turns out to be a bad specimen of a human. Such an 
environment only teaches him the wrong values and habits. 
It is for this reason that the Shariah has stipulated some 
guideline insofar as choosing a partner is concerned. Having 
the right partner in life means spending a peaceful and 
comfortable time together. Please do refer to the beginning 
parts of this book and see what the Shariah advises for a man 
when he chooses a wife.
Divorce and its consequences
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One of the main causes and reasons for the destruction of a 
child’s character and morals is the aftermath in a divorce. It is a 
generally accepted fact of life, which is accepted by all and 
sundry, that the child who opens his eyes, and does not find a 
loving and caring mother and the security of a loving father, 
will inadvertently end up in the gutters and with an evil 
character. 
Besides the lack of a loving home, the divorced mother ends up 
having to leave the home to work and fend for herself and her 
children which means that the children are shunted from pillar 
to post. This has a negative impact of the child who grows up 
insecure and ends up in the wrong company.
The Shariah enjoins that both spouses play their part in the 
household. The husband should be the one to provide food, 
clothes and shelter. He should also treat the household kindly 
and have a light-hearted attitude in the home. He should ‘play’ 
with his wife and children.
As reported by Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu anha), Nabi 
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) would assist in housework also, 
but sweeping, mending his own clothes, etc. 
If the husband finds that his wife is ‘not playing the game’ he 
should overlook her flaws and faults. If she lacks greatly I some 
Deeni aspect, then as mentioned before there is a proper 
manner which he should follow in trying to reform and rectify 
her. 
As far as possible efforts should be made to keep the household 
together rather than opt for divorce.