All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Pay attention to the Deeni upbringing of your children
Dear Respected Groom! Nikah is one great bounty from Allaah 
Ta`ala wherein lies mutual benefit for the spouses. As long as 
the Laws of Allaah Ta`ala are not broken and pleasure and 
comfort is attained through permissible means, the full benefit 
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if Nikah will be realised. Children, who are also bounties from 
Allaah Ta`ala are to be properly cared for and taught proper 
Islaamic character.
The standard of the children’s character, their manner of 
speaking and conversing, the proper Islaamic etiquettes of 
eating and drinking, etc. have to be taught and inculcated in 
them. 
If the children are not cared for in their nurturing stages, the 
mother does not breastfeed the child for the proper duration or 
at all, then the footing of the child is wrong. If there is no peace 
and solace in the home, the tension impacts on the children. In 
some homes we see that the couple bring child after child 
without any suitable period between them. This causes much 
tiredness to the wife. In fact, in such situations, we see that the 
wife will snap and shout the children incessantly. She is under 
great stress in brining up so many children. Together with her 
normal housework, and caring for the kids, she is bound to be 
tensed up. 
It must be borne in mind that the objective is not merely to 
have many children. More important than having many 
children is imparting to them the proper upbringing and 
character. Together with making your normal efforts during the 
day, you should, nay must, take out some time during the day 
to sit with your children and teach them proper Islaamic 
character and morals. This will engender a blessed home. 
Keeping this in mind, it is Mustahab to leave a suitable space 
between having children. It is recorded in the Kitaabs of Fiqh: 
It is stated in the Fataawa that because of the evil era, you fear 
a bad and unsuitable upbringing for children, then azal (coitus 
interuptus) should be practiced. At times the consent of the wife 
in this regard is not even necessary
. 
 
There may be some valid reasons for ‘birth-control’. Amongst 
them is genuine weakness of the wife, where she is not able to 
properly carry a baby in her womb, because you are on a long 

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journey, where conception will be harmful to both, mother and 
child, or perhaps there is dissension between the couple and an 
imminent separation is possible, etc. Then in all such cases, the 
impermissible act of ‘contraception’ becomes acceptable. In 
this regard, the Shariah has consented to 
azal
. Other forms of 
contraception should be avoided. 
On the other hand it is Haraam to practice contraception for 
fear of having an extra mouth to feed. Allaah Ta`ala states 
clearly in the Qur`aan Majeed that it is a major son to kill your 
children out of fear of poverty [Surah Israa] 
In conclusion of this section we humbly request that you 
exercise the proper option and do not misuse a Shar`i 
permissibility to suit your own whims. The best option in this 
and all other cases is to consult with a pious Aalim or Mufti 
and find out what the Shar`i ruling would be in your case.