All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Another grave error
One other grave fault apparent in many men is that of anger. 
Anger is a disease which has many repercussions and causes 
untold damage, hurt and harm. Not only is anger destructive to 
the victims thereof, but it also affects the one who displays the 
anger. It increases the blood pressure and causes much harm to 
the body as well. A man who gives vent often to his anger 
strikes fear in his children and household. This is a grave ill 
which needs to be remedied. 
Our humble request is that husband not display anger in the 
homes. If you are such a person who has a short-temper, then 
you should make a concerted effort at swallowing your anger. 
Anger is the one Haraam thing which if swallowed will warrant 
reward. We will offer some secrets regarding this illness, which 
we hope will be practiced upon and accepted: 
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1. 
Firstly you should learn the dua for entering the home. 
When you enter the house recite 
Authubillaahi Minash 
shaitaanir Rajeem Bismillah hir Rahmaan nir Raheem.
Recite 
Surah Ikhlaas and Durood Shareef and enter the home saying 
Salaam. Recite the dua whilst keeping in mind its meaning. The 
dua is: 
*ا ) و /و *ا ) ج1ا 2 و 3ا 2 456أ '!ا 7ا
آ. ر *ا ' و 2
 
“O Allaah! Indeed I ask of You the best when I enter and exit 
the home. We enter with the Name of Allaah and we exit with 
the Name of Allaah Ta`ala. And upon Allaah who is our Rabb, 
do we have trust.”
[Abu Dawood, page 339, vol. 2] 
Remember that duas are not only recited as a ritual. They have 
meaning and it is important that we keep in mind the meaning 
of the dua so that we know what we are asking for and 
protection from. 
2. 
Whenever you are angry then go and make wudhu. 
Wudhu will dispel your anger. The cool water will simmer 
down the heat of the anger and wudhu is an act which drives 
shaitaan away.
3. 
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, 
“He who 
swallows his anger when he is able to extract revenge, Allaah 
Ta`ala will call him out on the Day of Qiyaamah in front of all 
the creation and reward him with any damsel of Jannat that he 
desires.”
[Tirmidhi, page 22, vol. 2 / Abu Dawood, page 33, 
vol. 2] 
4.
Besides this, it is stated in the Qur`aan Majeed, 
“And 
Jannat whose span extends beyond the earths and skies, is 
prepared for the Muttaqeen, those who spend in good and 
constrained conditions, and those who swallow their anger and 

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those who overlook (the faults of) others. Verily Allaah loves 
those who do good.”
[Surah Aale Imraan] 
Great reward has been promised for those who control and 
swallow their anger. 
It is stated in another Hadith that nothing is more beloved to 
Allaah Ta`ala than the swallowing of anger. 
Imaam Ahmad (rahmatullah alayh) reports from Nabi 
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) that he said, 
“If anyone of you is 
angry, then he should remain silent.”
[Musnad Ahmad, Hadith 
number:3029] 
Another effective remedy is to write on a piece of paper and 
place it in a place where you will regularly see it: 
Allaah Ta`ala 
has more power and control over you than you have over your 
subordinates (wife/children/staff). It should not be that you
punish and rebuke others more than what is due, and then you 
will be taken to task for it in this world and the hereafter. 
5. 
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) stated that if a person 
who is angry is standing then he should sit down and if he is 
sitting then he should lie down. [Abu Dawood, page 303, vol. 
2] 
Experience shows us that anger is such that if a person is lying 
down then as his anger grows he will sit up and if his anger 
swells even more than he will stand up. So the remedy for 
anger is the opposite of this. This is an ideal prescription taught 
to us by Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) to cool down anger.