All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Do not load the anger caused by one onto another 
You should contemplate carefully on the following scenario 
and give an unbiased ruling – if someone in your workplace has 
angered you, your staff may not be very co-operative, your boss 
did not give you a raise, etc., etc. and then when you return 
home you vent your anger on your poor children or you ‘take 
off’ with your wife for the smallest slip she makes. Is this fair 
or is this not a sign of or cowardice and oppression? 
When the door is not opened immediately upon your first 
knock then you knock loudly and bang on the door, causing 
your poor wife or children to run and hasten to open for you. 
She may have been doing some important or delicate work and 
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now she had to abandon everything to attend to your banging 
on the door. 
How unfair is it that you vent your outside frustrations on your 
innocent family members. Now when you are curt to your wife, 
then she may, in her tiredness and exhaustion rebut your 
statement and this will lead to unnecessary arguments in the 
home, which the innocent children have to witness and bear. 
Children are also very intelligent and they may realise that you 
are at fault and that your poor wife is the oppressed one. This 
will lead to them losing respect for you. 
It is therefore an intelligent man who leaves all his work 
worries and problems at work and not bring them home with 
him where he will vent his anger and frustrations on his 
innocent family. The intelligent act is to lock up his work 
worries for the day at the office and return home worry-free. 
A suitable and tried solution to this problem is that the man 
should try to perform each of his five Salaat at the Musjid. He 
should try to be in the Musjid before the Athaan and perform 
his Sunnats, Nawaafil and Tilaawat there. After performing his 
Salaat, he should make dua to Allaah Ta'ala. If this is not 
possible, then at least he should proceed to the Musjid when he 
hears the Athaan. After the Athaan he should not busy himself 
in any work, but rather proceed to the Musjid and get ready for 
the Salaat. If he remains consistent on this for some time, 
Insha-Allaah Ta`ala he will notice a great difference in his life. 
His stresses, tensions, anger and evil thoughts will leave him.