All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

“Once I was on a journey with Rasulullah 
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) when we had a race. I beat him 
and won the race. After some time, my body became heavier 
and some years later we had another race and on that occasion 
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) beat me and came ahead. He 
told me that this was the compensation for the time I beat him.”
[Ma`ariful Hadith, vol. 6, page 85] 
In our present times it is regarded as being contrary to culture 
and the civilised way to race with one’s wife. However that 
same culture does not deem it inappropriate or taboo to race 
with other strange women, whereas we have the beautiful 
Sunnat of Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in front of us. 
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It is reported in another Hadith that at times when Hadhrat 
Aishah (radhiallahu anha) would drink water from a container 
then Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) would take the container 
from her and drink from the same spot she placed her mouth 
on. 
In another narration it is reported that sometimes when Hadhrat 
Aishah (radhiallahu anha) would partake of meat from a bone, 
then Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) would take the bone and 
eat therefrom.
What excellent examples for us to learn from. It is reported in a 
Hadith that Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, 
“A believing 
man should not despise a believing woman (his wife), if he 
dislikes something of hers, then there is some other trait of hers 
which he likes.”
[Muslim Shareef, Hadith number 2672] 
When a husband is irritated or upset at his wife, then he should 
not immediately consider 
Talaaq
. He should reflect on her 
good characteristics and appreciate her values. This is amongst 
the qualities of a good Muslim husband and the right of a wife. 
Regarding this, it is stated in the Qur`aan Majeed, 
“And live 
with them (your wives) with goodness. And if you dislike 
(something in) them, then it is possible that you dislike 
something wherein Allaah has placed much good.”
[Surah 
Nisaa] 
It is reported in a Hadith, 
“It has been reported from Hadhrat 
Aishah (radhiallahu anha) who says, ‘Rasulullah (sallallahu 
alayhi wasallam) said, ‘Indeed the most perfect of believers, is 
he who displays the best character and is most kind to his 
wife.’’”
[Sunan Tirmidhi, Kitaabul Imaan, Hadith number 
2538] 
In another Hadith it is stated, 
“It has been reported from 
Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu anha) that Rasulullah (sallallahu 
alayhi wasallam) said, ‘The best of you is the one who is best to 
his wife and I am the best amongst you (with regard to 

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It is an accepted fact that women first feed their husbands and 
then they will eat. If unexpected guests arrive, then she will 
forgo her portion of the food and send it for the guest. 
If the husband returns late in the night from a journey, then the 
wife will sacrifice her sleep and rest and prepare food and 
welcome her husband.
In essence, the wife will sacrifice her all for the husband and 
the husband will remain independent from her. If she lets out an 
unsavoury statement, then ‘all hell breaks loose’. The man will 
get upset and rebuke her severely. This attitude if incorrect and 
the man should understand the wife and patiently bear her 
tantrums. 
If the man treats the wife with kindness and overlooks all her 
little faults, then she will become more attracted and 
affectionate towards him and render services to him with more 
enthusiasm.
We have the excellent example of our beloved Nabi (sallallahu 
alayhi wasallam) before us. His blessed habits and the way in 
which he dealt with and treated his blessed wives is an example 
for us to see and try to emulate. Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu 
anha) stated: