All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

They should ride the train through life together
This is an accepted fact of life, but the in order to maintain 
good relations each one of the spouses should consider the 
other. Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) and Hadhrat Faatimah 
(radhiallahu anha) had also made this arrangement that he 
would attend to all outside matters and she to domestic matters. 
This is the Sunnat of Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and this 
is what we should practice on. The spouses should not hanker 
all the time after their own rights. They should divide their 
chores in this manner and Insha-Allaah Ta`ala all their affairs 
will be in order. 

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upset her so. He asked what the matter was and with difficulty, 
through her tears, she replied, 
“Hadhrat, I am now married for 
forty years and there was not a single day in my married life 
that I ever heard my husband tell me, ‘The food was delicious’. 
This was the first time I heard someone tell me that, hence I 
broke out crying.”
. 
Such a person cannot praise the cooking
Hadhrat would relate this incident often and always say that 
only that husband who regards his wife as serving him out of 
the goodness of her heart and as a ‘favour’ would think of 
appreciating and thanking her, and the person who regards and 
treats his wife as a servant will never even think of thanking her 
and being appreciative for all that she does.
The husband must personally serve his parents
A question arises as to what the situation will be if the 
husband’s parents are old and weak and they require assistance. 
Their son and daughter-in-law are living with them, so what 
will the solution be? In such a situation also, it will not be the 
responsibility and obligation of the daughter-in-law to serve his 
parents. However, it will be a meritorious act and from the 
goodness of her heart if she does render them service. She will 
be greatly rewarded by Allaah Ta`ala. Nevertheless, the 
husband must realise that the responsibility to serve his parents 
rests squarely on his shoulders. He should serve them himself 
or engage the services of some helper to serve them. It is not 
the obligation or moral duty of his wife to tend to his parents, 
but if she does, then he should realise that she is doing it from 
the goodness of her heart.