All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Take lesson from an innocent girl
Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi (rahmatullah alayh) said 
that we should derive lesson from an innocent uneducated girl 
who, just because of two sentences – i.e. of proposal and 
acceptance – she had established a relationship with one man, 
and left and ‘forsake’ her parents, family, home, friends and 
even her village. She had ‘relinquished’ all other ties and 
became solely her husband’s. So much of loyalty and sacrifice 
just based on two simple sentences. Hadhrat Thaanwi 
(rahmatullah alayh) said that the women have so much of trust 
that they are prepared to sacrifice everything and give 
themselves over to their husbands based on two simple 
sentences and yet you cannot give yourself over to your Rabb 
based on the two simple sentences of 
*ا ل6ر ;" *ا <ا =ا <
 
How much of sacrifice has your wife not given for you
In the Hadith Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) is bringing to 
our notice the sacrifice which a woman gives for her husband. 
Just imagine what if the situation was the other way around. 
Would you be able to leave your families behind and go and 
live with total strangers? Keep this sacrifice of your wife in 
mind and appreciate her. 
Service to father and mother-in-law is not her obligatory 
duty
There is one other matter which needs to be taken cognisance 
of and that is since it is not Waajib for the wife to cook for and 
see to the husband’s and children’s food, so too, to a larger 
extent is it not her obligation to cook for her in-laws. It is a 
misconception in our society that whenever a girl gets married 
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into a family, then the groom’s parents regard their right over 
the new bride to be even before that of their son. They feel that 
she must serve them. This type of mentality has far-reaching 
effects, the harms of which we are all well aware.