All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Don’t make your wife sick
Many husbands who have immature thinking and due to 
inexperience or due to misguidance from their ignorant 
mothers, deprive their wives of many things, both physical and 
spiritual, which finally leads to the poor girl becoming sick. 
And then the husband spends a fortune on doctors and medicine 
in order to find a remedy for her. He then further blames her for 
everything. Eventually he goes to the Moulana Saheb and 
requests a taweez or something like that for the sickly girl who, 
he says, was his misfortune to have. 
Whereas the reality of the matter is that if we look at the 
situation in the home, then we will realise that this is the result 
of the gradual ill-treatment meted out to the wife. No care was 
taken for her. Her needs were not taken cognisance of. She was 
oppressed and abused. 
The final analysis is that the husband is the cause of the wife’s 
ill health. Over the years of withholding the oppression and 
tyranny perpetrated on her, where she was not even afforded 
the opportunity to visit her parents, etc., etc all lead to her 
defences breaking down and her health deteriorating. It may 

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have been that this poor girl came from a very loving home 
where her parents cared intensely for her and then she is 
subjected to the tyranny of uncaring and selfish in-laws and a 
cowardly husband. Such impositions will certainly weaken 
even the strongest. 
Hereunder we will list just some of the ailments which are the 
result of mental strain and stress: 
1.
Pain in the back of the neck 
2.
Swelling of the throat 
3.
Pain and irritation of the bowels 
4.
Gall bladder pain 
5.
Flatulence
6.
Apathy and lethargy 
7.
Headache 
8.
Palpitations 
9.
Constipation 
10.
Tiredness, weakness and depression, etc. 
If you desire that your wife remain happy and healthy and 
maintain her youth and beauty, then you should not put her 
through any stress or grief. You should fulfil all the permissible 
needs and desires of your wife and children (within your limit). 
Listen attentively to them as far as possible and make a 
concerted effort to keep them happy. Insha-Allah Ta`ala, in this 
way she will remain happy and healthy. 
We make dua that Allaah Ta`ala grant you the ability to have 
mercy on your wife and children and if anyone of them angers 
you then you overlook it and forgive them.