The Art Of Saying no: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted

Part II: Reasons We Struggle To Say No,
we’ll talk about the role of low self-esteem, and how it
makes us inclined to please people. After you read that
section, stop for a moment and think about whether low
self-esteem is a personal challenge. Consider how it affects
the way you interact with others. Think about how it’s an
obstacle to getting your needs met.

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Reflecting on the material in this way allows you to take
mental notes that are unique to your personal experience.
You’ll find that the material has greater impact.
When we get to Part III: 10 Strategies For Saying No
(Without Feeling Like A Jerk), look for opportunities to apply
the advice. Try out each strategy and note its effect. How
does the requestor react? How does its use influence his or
her perception of you? Also, note the extent to which each
strategy helps you to regain control of your time.
That’s being an active reader. It’s the best way to make
full use of the material you’ll find in the following pages.
Positive Change Starts Today
Before we move on to Part II: Reasons We Struggle To Say
No, I need you to do something for me. It’s a simple thing,
but critical if you hope to get maximum value from this
book. Here it is:
I need you to make a commitment. Pledge that you’ll
apply the advice in this book.
It’s tempting to read The Art Of Saying NO, and file it
away without taking action. Please don’t do that. Reading
and learning is only one part of the formula. The other part -
arguably, the most important part - is applying what you
learn. That’s when habits change and life becomes more
rewarding.
If you’re ready to commit, let’s jump in.

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