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failures, events for which one bears the responsibility.‖
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It means that the person who is
feeling guilty regrets about some behaviors exhibited, but the person who is feeling the
shame regrets some aspects of him or her as a person.
―Early conceptualizations of shame and guilt claimed that shame was a public
experience (caused by the reactions of others) while guilt was a private experience (caused
by internal conflict about morality)‖
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So in one word they are interrelated and sometimes
one will bring another; guilt will bring shame and vice versa.
According to the dominant model of shame and guilt people experience these emotions
when they have done something 'bad' or 'wrong' in their own eyes or in the eyes of others.
For example; among Uzbek people there is a discrimination when it comes to shame. Uzbek
women are brought up to have more shame than men in front of other people. For instance:
they try to wear long dresses in order to cover parts of their body or when they have been
unfamiliar guests in their home or they try not to be seen by them. Even looking directly at
somebody's eyes are considered rude in Uzbek culture. Therefore they try to avoid it
because of shame. One of the most popular peculiarities of shame is becoming red in the
face and ears especially in the part of chin. Not only woman but also man feel shame in
Uzbek culture. Usually they try to look at another site or wonder their eyes or they try not to
talk about it. In these cases they don't feel that they did something wrong but they might do.
Moreover, Uzbek people can feel shame when they are not satisfied with themselves
including: illiterateness and being poor. Here are some examples from ―Night and Day‖ by
Chulpon in the following.
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Every Uzbek man calls his wife—his lawful partner in life—by his daughter or his sons name. It just won‘t do to call his wife by name. If his wife‘s name was Maryam and his daughter‘s Xadicha, a faithful Muslim wouldn‘t bring shame on himself. He would call his wife Xadicha.‖ 3 According to uzbek mentality men usually don‘t call their waves with their names
instead they use their children‘s names. It is one of the most not widely spread peculiarity
of uzbek culture which you can not find in another culture.
―One of the guests, Qumri, stepped away from the party for a moment, heading in the direction of the mulberry tree. Upon seeing the two men there, looking at one another and laughing quietly, she turned white and let out a muffled, ―Voy, the shame !‖ She ran back to Saltanat‘s side and whispered to her, ―Boys from the village have surrounded us. When I went over to the mulberry tree, two of them stared at me, eyes bulging.‖ 4 1
Lewis H.B. -Shame and guilt in neurosis 1971 p.132
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David Ausubel, Helen Hanesian and Joseph D. N. -Educational psychology: a
cognitive view 1955 p.92
3
Chulpon- Night and day; Academic Studies Press 2019 p.5
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Chulpon- Night and day; Academic Studies Press 2019 p.25