All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

you should adopt patience.
You must 
not come to me and complain that my mother said this or my 
sister did this or my nephews treat you such, etc., etc. 

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You must remember that when you take stories around like that 
then my heart may turn away from you or alternatively, may 
Allaah Ta`ala not make it such, if I believe your stories, then it 
will lead to my becoming disrespectful to my mother, which 
will definitely not bode well for both our Aakhirah, because it 
will displease Allaah Ta`ala and earn His Wrath. When Allaah 
Ta`ala becomes angry, then all peace and comfort in this world 
will escape us. 
Remember that when a husband returns home, tired and 
exhausted from the day’s work, then he seeks peace and 
solace at home and not arguments and complaints. Just as 
your complaints about your in-laws may not bode well for 
them, it does you equal harm. If you heed this advice of 
mine, Insha-Allaah Ta`ala you will see and witness the 
benefits in this very world. 
At the same time, our advice 
to the grooms is that if their 
wives do ever come to them with complaints, then they 
should bear it with patience and offer some suitable 
solution. He should not become angry and scold his wife, 
because he may say such things which he will forever 
regret.
On the other hand, he should not side with his wife and 
say something untoward to his mother, because hurting her 
feelings will be to his detriment. 
He should not accept just about everything his wife tells him 
and realise that women do have the habit of complaining and 
also that they are the weaker gender with deficient intellect. 
He 
should handle all such matters with wisdom.
He should not listen to the complaints and counter-complaints. 
If he does hear them, then it should not affect him. 
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