All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

part in mutual love and friendship in a marriage, more 
than any other factor. The reason being that without the 
Deen all relationship, sometimes even in this very 
world, are extinguished. In the hereafter 
all 
relationships will be extinguished, besides Deeni ones.
The following narration of Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu 
anha) has been narrated in Ibn Maajah, Daar-e-Qutni 
and Haakim, that Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) 
said, 
“Choose a good wife for your offspring and marry 
in Kufu (compatibility).” 
The following narration has been reported in Ibn 
Maajah and Dailami, 
“Choose a good wife for your 
progeny because the effects will penetrate (through the 
generations).” 
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Ibn Ali narrates the following Hadith of Rasulullah 
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in his Kitaab 
Kaamil, 
“Choose a good wife for your progeny because the 
effects will penetrate (through the generations).” 
 
In essence all these blessed Ahaadith point to one 
direction, and that is a man should choose a good and 
pious wife, who was brought up in a respectable and 
chaste household. The secret of this is that in choosing a 
good wife the effects will be seen in the future 
generations. 
In following this principle, Hadhrat Uthmaan bin Abil 
`Aas Thaqafi (radhiallahu anhu) had made a bequest 
that his children marry honourable girls who have a 
respectable lineage so that they may save themselves 
from evil and immoral girls. Take note of his salient 
advices which he offered to his children, 
“Oh my sons! 
Contracting a Nikah is similar to planting a seed. A 
person is careful as to where he plants his seeds. An evil 
and immodest girl will bear dishonourable and immoral 
children. Therefore it is important that you choose a 
girl from high lineage even though it may take some 
time.” 
In attesting this issue of choosing a modest and pious 
girl, Hadhrat Umar (radhiallahu anhu) had once given 
the following reply when he was asked the rights a child 
has on his parents. He said, 
“One should make careful 
consideration when choosing his (the child’s) mother 
(i.e. choose a good wife), give him a good and 
appropriate name and teach him Qur`aanic Taleem.”

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Every Muslim man should understand this Islaam is that 
single religion that teaches a girl to fulfil the rights of 
her husband, in-laws, in fact the rights of all the family 
members and even the rest of mankind, and also 
animals. This Deen also teaches her to save herself from 
backbiting, lies, evil thoughts, treachery, immodesty 
etc, so that the train of life may continue smoothly. 
Deen is what saves her from fulfilling evil and satanic 
desires. 
Deen is that helper wherewith she nurtures her children 
with good character and sound morals. 
The object of Nikah is mutual understanding, affection, 
peace, contentment and a true bond of friendship. It is a 
fact and certainty that the Deen plays the most major