All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

partner. 
1). 
The first thing is to perform Salaatul Haajaat and make 
earnest dua. Besides the prohibited Salaat times, whenever one 
gets an opportunity, at least two Rakaats should be performed, 
whereafter one cries and humbly pleads with Allaah Ta`ala to 
guide one to the correct marriage partner. He should make the 
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following dua, 
“O Allaah Ta`ala! I intend making Nikah, 
through You Mercy, guide me to a pious wife.”
During the Sajdah of Nafl Salaat, he should recite, 
ا و ا ةّ ّّرذ و اوزا ه ر
ا
 
“O our Rabb! Grant us from those wives and children who will 
be a coolness to our eyes, and make us Imaams of the pious 
ones.”
[Surah Furqaan] 
If possible, when you are walking around or at any free 
moment, recite,
 
وز ه بّهو 
 
“O Giver! Grant me a pious wife.” 
 
You should also recite after every Fardh and Nafl Salaat,
ا ّا ا
ا ّ ةأ !ا "! #$ذ&
 
“O Allaah! Indeed I seek Your protection from such a wife who 
will age me before my old-age.”
This is an important dua, to which one should grant due 
consideration. Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) had also made 
dua for such a wife who does not make one old before the time. 
Such a wife can be a noose around the neck! 
Regarding such a woman the Mashaaikh have said, 
“An evil 
woman is a noose on the neck. Allaah Ta`ala strings it around 
whomsoever He pleases.”
May Allaah Ta`ala save all believers from this! 

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THE FIRST STEP IN A MARITAL 
RELATIONSHIP 
Choosing a pious wife 
Choosing of one’s life-companion or marriage-partner is a very 
delicate, difficult and arduous step. Hastening and rushing this 
stage can be very detrimental. Similarly, disappointment and 
losing hope are also fatal poisons.
If one or two places are proposed to and the reply came in the 
negative, then the house-people lose hope and feel that they 
will never get a partner for their son and no one wants to give 
their daughter to their son, so they feel that the first willing girl 
they find, they will get him married there, regardless of whether 
she is suitable for him or not. 
In this way, a good educated boy is married off to a girl with 
whom there is no compatibility, and they spend their entire 
lives in misery, fights and arguments, such that many even end 
up in divorce. 
It is therefore imperative that the groom also keep his senses 
about him and not lose hope. His family should also attend to 
this matter with intelligence and they should all make dua that 
Allaah Ta`ala guide them all to a good and suitable marriage