All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Final request 
Every Muslim man and woman must try to study the section on 
Wasiyyat
and make immediate arrangements to prepare the 
same. 
A summary
We will make a short summary of the Kitaab hereunder so that 
you may refer to it occasionally and keep the points in mind: 
1). 
As long as the husband and wife are not pious and 
Allaah Ta`ala-fearing, they can never become one. You should 
try to reform yourself and make an effort at reforming your 
wife as well. 
2). 
Try your best to keep the Nikah simple, Insha-Allaah 
Ta`ala there will be much barkat in it for you. 
3). 
Stipulate the amount for 
mehr 
to be equal to 
Mehr-e-
Faatimi
and try your best to pay it cash. 
4). 
Do not ask or desire that the bride’s family give 
trousseau. 
5). 
Try as far as possible to live separately from your 
family, because it is difficult for two women to share the same 
kitchen. Many problem can be avoided in this way and it 
engenders more love and affection between family members. 
6). 
The best remedy and 
taweez
for engendering and 
maintaining love for your wife is to lower and protect your 
gaze. When you look at what Allaah Ta`ala has forbidden then 
you will find no peace in your life and you will develop an 
aversion for your wife regardless of how pretty she may be. 
7). 
Remember that one of the traits of women is that they 
become happy if they are praised and appreciated, therefore in 
order to maintain the happiness and tranquillity in the home, 

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always praise your wife and be grateful for what she does for 
you. You will find her more loving and attentive towards you. 
8). 
When we study the cases of the many arguments and 
fights between spouses then we realise that 90% of them are 
caused either when the husband leaves the home or when he 
walks into the home on retuning from the shop or office. Keep 
these two times in mind. It is when shaitaan takes advantage of 
the situation that it gets out of hand. Remember that arguing 
and bickering between spouses chases the mercy of Allaah 
Ta`ala away. 
9). 
If you are staying away from your parent’s home, then 
occasionally send gifts to them through your wife. Send freshly 
cooked food for them, occasionally. Whenever you visit them, 
then try not to go empty-handed, always take something or the 
other as a gift for them. If you are living with your parents, then 
never give the impression that you have more affection for your 
wife than towards your mother. 
10). 
Remember! Children are children and not saints. Never 
fall into an argument with your wife on account of the children. 
You should take charge of the house for only one day and 
Insha-Allaah Ta`ala you will understand (her predicament). 
Similarly, in the interest of your children’s upbringing and the 
health of your wife, it is preferable to have a sufficient gap 
between conceiving children.