All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Appreciate the service of the daughter-in-law
The husband and his parents should not deem the service of the 
bride as her duty, they must appreciate her service as it is 
worthy of being appreciated. They must be grateful to her. 
They must appreciate her efforts. If they adopt this attitude then 
it will naturally please the poor bride as well and encourage her 
to do more. Ungratefulness and ingratitude causes grief. Many 
divorces are caused purely on account of the discord between 
the wife and he mother-in-law and sisters-in-law. 
The object of (having) a wife
Allaah Ta`ala explains the creation of women thus, 
“And 
amongst His Signs is that He create for you from yourselves, 
wives, so that you may live (seek solace from) her. And He 
created between the two of you affection and mercy. Indeed in 
this are signs for the people who reflect.”
[Surah Room, Aayat 
21] 
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The tafseer of this Aayat is that women were created for men so 
that they (men) may seek solace and comfort in them. It is 
apparent that the object of Nikah is to create and engender 
peace, comfort and contentment. In that home where this is 
found, they have achieved the objective of marriage. Another 
factor is that men are saved from perpetrating Haraam, thanks 
to their wives. They are saved from roaming like animals and 
satisfying their base desires here, there and everywhere. 
It is obvious and clear that the objective of married life is 
peace, solace and contentment.
It is clear from the Tafseer of this Aayat that the main reason 
for the creation of women is so that the husband attains mental 
and physical satisfaction and contentment. So if this couple are 
to live together in one house with a whole lot of other family 
members, where there is constant strife, fights and arguments, 
how is there ever going to be peace and contentment achieved 
by anyone? The very object of marriage will be lost in this 
situation. May Allaah Ta`ala guide us all to practice on what is 
correct. 
Hereunder we will list a few questions and answers of Hadhrat 
Moulana Yusuf Ludhianwi (rahmatullah alayh), which 
appeared in the 
Jang
under the column of 
Aap ke Masaail aur 
oun ka hall
.