All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

It is necessary to have a separate kitchen
Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi (rahmatullah alayh) has 
stressed on providing a separate kitchen for the newlyweds. 
Some people feel that it is not feasible or affordable to provide 
a separate house. It is not necessary that a house be acquired. A 
place can be rented. If even this is not affordable, then at least 
make a separate kitchen in the present house. It is necessary to 
have the couple live separately, regardless of family or cultural 
pressures. As a matter of fact, even if the couple are willing to 
live together with the in-laws, then too, they should be 
discouraged from that and encouraged to live separately, there 
is much benefit in this. It is a sure-remedy for many problems. 
We hear daily of problems in such homes where all live 
together. Both the worldly and 
ukhrawi
lives of all concerned 
are spoilt by this arrangement. All the constant bickering and 
arguments many a times lead to the husband uttering divorce, 
due to the stress and frustration he undergoes. 

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As mentioned before, you should make the intelligent choice. 
Ask yourself which of the two options are better. 
The benevolence of the wife
Although it is not a Shar`i obligation, the wife tends to and 
cares for her in-laws out of the goodness of her heart. This 
great act of hers warrants tremendous reward. When the 
husband’s parents are in need of aid, then it is his responsibility 
to tend to them or at least employ someone to tend to them. 
This caring selfless wife, takes this responsibility of the 
husband and tends to his parents. Surely such a wife is a gift 
and bounty from Allaah Ta`ala. She bears so much of hardship 
and difficulty. As they say: 
With ibaadat one acquires Jannat, 
but with khidmat (voluntary service to others) one attains and 
acquires Allaah Ta`ala.