Copyright 2001, Colin C. Tipping

Seeing the Christ in Ourselves
It is important to recognize that the mechanism of pro-
jection does not just apply to the shadow side of us.
We also project onto other people the things we like
about ourselves yet have a hard time acknowledging.
Thus we see in those people our own inner beauty, our
own creative talent, our own intelligence and so on.
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The Positive Reflection Exercise
This is an exercise taught by Arnold Patent. It is pow-
erful in its effect on everyone who tries it because it
asks you to see, first, what is wonderful in another per-
son, and second, to claim that quality as your own. It
truly connects people with their essence — with the
Christ in themselves — and allows them to really see
who they are. The exercise is usually done in a group
setting, but it can equally be done with two people. It is
similar to seeing the Christ in a person, but instead of
doing it silently, this exercise is done verbally and with
eye contact.
Person A, speaking from the heart, says to person B,
“The beautiful, wonderful qualities that I see in you, that
you reflect in me, are...” Person A, then tells the per-
son the qualities they see. Person B, listens and re-
sponds by saying, “Thank you.” They then switch over
and repeat the exercise.
24: Forgiveness Is a 3-Letter Word
T
his tool simply involves writing three letters to
the person you feel has wronged or hurt you in
some way. It works wonderfully when you are re-
ally upset about something that has just happened; it
even works on something that may have happened a
long time ago.
Vent all your anger and rage in the first letter. Hold noth-
ing back. You can threaten vengeance of the vilest kind
if it makes you feel good. Keep writing until you have
nothing left to say. The process of writing this letter
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may cause you to shed a lot of tears — tears of rage,
sadness, resentment, and hurt. Let them flow. Have a
box of tissues beside you. If you are angry, scream into
a pillow or do some physical activity to help you feel
your anger.