Women often wonder why men take so long
to make a phone
call. For example, a man asks for her phone number and then waits
six days before calling. Then he takes her out on a really fun date
and waits another five days before calling again. Meanwhile, she’s
scratching her head and asking, “What’s up with that?”
Men are used to being turned down by women so this delaying
tactic is how they keep their guard up. In the beginning, he’ll be
calculated. He’ll be rational as opposed to “emotional,” because to
him appearing too obvious, or “emotional,” will be perceived as a
sign of weakness. On Tuesday, he’ll say to himself, “I think I’ll call
her on Thursday”. Most men don’t
have a clue that the woman
would have preferred a call on Tuesday.
So why do they do it? They do it to “save face” and to give the
impression they’re “in control” of the situation. An attractive guy by
the name of Steven surprised me with his candor. He said, “You
have to approach women looking like you do it all the time, and it
isn’t a big deal to you. The minute you act like it’s important to you,
the woman smells it and she treats you differently”. This is the
reason men will wait before calling and then act a little bit cavalier.
They believe that women disrespect men who appear weak or
vulnerable.
What you can take away from this is:
Do not take it personally
if he doesn’t call for a day or two. Often when it seems as though
he’s
slightly rejecting you, it can be a compliment in disguise; he
wants you
so much
that he doesn’t
want to appear too obvious
about it. Other times men pull back deliberately to see what your
reaction will be, because they
are curious to see how much
you
care. If you don’t believe me, keep reading. Here’s what these
sneaky devils copped to:
1. “Guys want women to think
they have other options with
women, even when they don’t. So they exaggerate. They do
it to make themselves look more attractive to a woman.”
2. “Sure, men play cool. Because they think the woman is going
to find them more attractive or appealing. I know some guys
that check out a woman who isn’t even that beautiful, just to
make his girlfriend a little insecure.”
3. “Guys don’t want to admit it to themselves that one woman
can have that kind of control over them. It deflates our egos
to think that women can affect us that much. We don’t want
to feel like we have no control over ourselves.”
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #68
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