the guys and has no attitude about it. Like if I get tickets to a
hockey game at the last minute. If she’s cool even when I
cancel plans with her, it wins my respect. It feels like she is
secure with herself, and she
cares about what makes me
happy, too.”
11. “I had one girlfriend who talked so much I could walk away
into another room and she’d still be talking. One time I was
in the bathroom trying to have some privacy and she was
talking to me through the crack of the door. I really think
there was something wrong with her.”
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #66
Talking about feelings to a man
will feel like
work.
When he’s with a
woman, he wants it to feel like
fun
.
12. “When
a guy talks about something, it’s over in thirty
seconds. But for a woman, it goes on and on. What seems
like a trivial thing to him seems like it’s life threatening to her.
So then you try to help and you say, ‘Honey, it doesn’t
matter.’ But that makes it
worse because she thinks you
don’t care.”
13. “I think a woman who talks less is more attractive because it
makes her more mysterious. It is not a good thing to just
ramble on. Communication should be about quality not
quantity. If a woman
is uncomfortable or bothered, he
should be able to feel it without her saying a word.”
14. “One woman wanted the two of us to always be together.
She tried to change how I spend all my time. And every guy
has his own special time or recreation. She wanted me to do
stuff I didn’t want to do. If she knows I am not the ‘artsy’
type, she should let me be who I am. She shouldn’t be
dragging me to an art gallery or a museum. If a guy treats a
woman well, but he doesn’t write poetry or buy stupid
cards expressing his
feelings,
she
should just leave well
enough alone.”
15. “I don’t mind a woman who changes the decor in the house,
but when she is obsessed with changing me, it gets old. I
want a woman who has a sense of purpose in her own life,
so she doesn’t waste all her energy trying to control mine.”
What you can glean from this feedback is that,
no matter how
much a woman wants intimacy, she can’t force it out of a man—
much less change his stripes. Notice that in the last quote, the man
even says the woman is
wasting her time.
Whenever
a woman
speaks in language that appears in any way emotional, most men
will immediately discredit it and think of it as “girlie babble.”
Keeping it short
and to the point is essential, otherwise he won’t
hear a single word.
Not only this, but constantly trying to force a man to talk about
feelings or pay an inordinate amount of attention to your feelings is
counterproductive. Here’s why: