Distraction Source 3: Your Mind
The third source is your mind itself. Negative emotions, restlessness, and
daydreaming can be some of the biggest obstacles to focus. This problem has
two sides. First, it’s obvious that a clear, calm mind is best for focusing on
almost all learning problems. A mind filled with angers, anxieties,
frustrations, or sadness will be harder to study with. This means that if you’re
struggling with problems in your life, you’ll have a harder time learning well,
and you may want to look at dealing with those first. Being in a toxic
relationship, having anxiety about some other task you’re procrastinating on,
or simply knowing you’re going down the wrong road in life can interfere
with your motivation, so it’s often best not to ignore these issues. However,
sometimes there’s nothing you can do about your emotions, and feelings arise
spontaneously without requiring you to do something about them. A random
worry about some future event might bubble up, let’s say, but you know you
shouldn’t stop the activity you’re working on right now in order to deal with
it. Here the solution is to acknowledge the feeling, be aware of it, and gently
adjust your focus back to your task and allow the feeling to pass.
Allowing negative feelings to pass, of course, is a lot easier said than done.
Emotions can hijack the mind and make the process of returning awareness to
your project feel like a Sisyphean task. If I’m really anxious about something,
for instance, I may feel as though I’m returning my attention to a task, only
for it to jump away fifteen seconds later, repeating again and again for an
hour or more. In such moments, recognize that by not reacting to the emotion
at the level of abandoning your task entirely, you’ll diminish its intensity in
the future. You’ll also strengthen your commitment to continue working in
future situations like this, so they will become easier. Mindfulness researcher
and psychiatrist Susan Smalley and meditation teacher Diana Winston of
UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center argue that when we are
engaging in a behavior, our typical reaction is to try to suppress distracting
thoughts. If instead you “learn to let it arise, note it, and release it or let it
go,” this can diminish the behavior you’re trying to avoid.
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If it ever feels as
though continuing working is pointless because you’re so distracted by a
negative emotion that you can’t possibly work, remember that the long-term
strengthening of your ability to persist on this task will be useful, so the time
is not wasted even if you don’t accomplish much in this particular learning
session.
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