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party, a dinner for a bunch of his friends. When Janet said, “Let’s do it,” he was
thrilled.  Her  emphasis  was  on  the  “
 ’s,”  the  us.  Because  she  was  the  more
experienced cook and party giver, however, she did most of the preparation, and
she did it gladly. She was delighted to see how happy he was to be having this
event.  The  problem  started  after  the  guests  arrived.  Phil  just  went  to  the  party.
He acted like a guest. Like she was supposed to continue doing all the work. She
was enraged.
The  mature  thing  to  do  would  have  been  to  take  him  aside  to  have  a
discussion.  Instead,  she  decided  to  teach  him  a  lesson.  She,  too,  went  to  the
party.  Fortunately,  entitlement  and  retaliation  did  not  become  a  pattern  in  their
relationship.  Communication  did.  In  the  future,  things  were  discussed,  not
assumed.
A  no-effort  relationship  is  a  doomed  relationship,  not  a  great  relationship.  It
takes  work  to  communicate  accurately  and  it  takes  work  to  expose  and  resolve
conflicting  hopes  and  beliefs.  It  doesn’t  mean  there  is  no  “they  lived  happily
ever after,” but it’s more like “they worked happily ever after.”