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The Fixed-Mindset Reaction.
You feel righteous about your anger for a while, but then
you  realize  you’ve  gone  too  far.  You  suddenly  recall  all  the  ways  that  your
spouse  is  a  supportive  partner  and  feel  intensely  guilty.  Then  you  talk  yourself
back into the idea that you, too, are a good person, who’s just slipped up—lost it
—temporarily.  “I’ve  really  learned  my  lesson,”  you  think.  “I’ll  never  do  this
again.”
But  believing  you  can  simply  keep  that  good  person  in  the  forefront  in  the
future, you don’t think of strategies you could use next time to prevent a flare-
up. That’s why the next time is a carbon copy of the time before.