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Hurt people hurt other people
The way people act towards the outside world illustrates what’s going on in their
inner world. When someone attempts to make you feel inadequate, it’s because
they feel inadequate themselves. Understanding this will help you handle related
situations more effectively.
For example, sadness makes people act bitterly and without love; pain and
internal suffering claw us into a low vibration. It causes a domino effect of hurt,
because all too often people aren’t in a good mood because they’ve been hurt by
someone else who wasn’t in a good mood. These newly hurt people then hurt
other people, and on it goes.
But trying to heal pain by inflicting it on others doesn’t work. The Indian guru
and spiritual teacher Osho once likened this to banging on a wall. His view was
that attacking others to relive your pain is like someone being angry and then
taking it all out on a wall, trying to cause it damage. They don’t define the wall
and the wall doesn’t have the problem – they do. Eventually they’ll end up more
hurt, even though the wall has not hurt them itself.
Disliking difference
People tend to feel drawn towards individuals who resemble them in some way.
This is demonstrated by a neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) technique called
mirroring, which shows that mimicking an individual’s behaviours encourages
them to like you.
So, if you’re generally loud, bubbly and full of life, and you come across
someone similar, you’d probably think they’re pretty cool. And if their speech
patterns, body language and tone are similar to yours, you might think, ‘You
know what, there’s something about this person I really like.’ That’s because
they’re just like you.

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We can also assume the opposite to be true: people tend not to feel an affinity
with individuals who are different from them. And someone different from you
might think you come across as a bit strange or ‘out there’. Ultimately, they
won’t understand you, or want to understand you, because your energy doesn’t
match theirs.