Copyright 2001, Colin C. Tipping

particularly, I was shifting to a new set of questions.
These were:
1.
 
What is perfect about what is occurring for her?
2. How is this perfection being revealed?
3. How can she shift her viewpoint so she might be-
come willing to accept that there might be a certain
perfection in her situation?
I can assure you that Jill's original perception of the situ-
ation with Jeff, and of all prior situations with her previ-
ous husband, certainly did not jive with the idea of ev-
erything being perfect. Indeed, she felt that what had
occurred was 
self-evidently
wrong or bad. Most people
would have agreed with her.
However, as we saw, the healing occurred for her only
when she realized that, in fact, there was no right or
wrong in any of the situations, that she was clearly not
being victimized, and that far from being her enemy,
Jeff was her healing angel. She slowly began to see
how at every moment Divine guidance was helping her
heal an earlier misperception and related false belief
system that for years had prevented her from express-
ing her true self. Each situation, including what was
happening with Jeff, was, on that basis, a gift of grace.
This actually makes RFT less of a therapy and more of
a process of education. The therapist or coach as I
prefer to call him or her, acts not so much out of a de-
sire to fix someone as to enlighten him or her. Radical
Forgiveness is a spiritual philosophy that has practical
application to peoples’ lives insofar as it gives them a
spiritual perspective that they can apply, in the manner
of self-help, to whatever problem or situation that they
are dealing with.
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The Divine plan is not fixed. At any point in the unfold-
ment of one’s plan, one is always at choice. Radical
Forgiveness helps people shift their viewpoint and
make new choices based on their insights.
Jill’s story demonstrates how difficult making that shift
in perception can be. Even with fairly obvious clues, it
took a lot of discussion and a lot of processing of emo-
tional pain before Jill became open to understanding a
different interpretation. This was especially true of her
former husband's supposed infidelity.
Imagine how tough it might be to sell the idea of Radi-
cal Forgiveness to a holocaust victim or to someone
who has just been raped or otherwise violently abused.
Indeed, much of RFT's preliminary work involves creat-
ing a willingness to even look at the 
possibility 
of there
being perfection in what happened. Even then, de-
pending on the circumstances, developing such a re-
ceptivity can take time and almost always requires a
great deal of emotional release work first. It is, never-
theless, possible. I can say that because I have seen
people with horrendous stories make tremendous shifts
in very short periods of time.
Yet, it remains possible that some people may never
get to the point where they become receptive. They sim-
ply may never get beyond their feelings of victimhood.
On the other hand, those who do find themselves able
to see, even for a moment, the perfection in their situa-
tion, are empowered to release their feelings of
victimhood and to become free. Jill was one of those.
She and Jeff remain together and happily married to
this day.
Therein lies the power of this work, for, as we shall see
in later chapters, releasing victimhood provides the key
to health, personal power and spiritual evolution. We
have been addicted to the victim archetype for eons,
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and as we move into the Aquarian Age (the next 2,000
year period of spiritual evolution), we must answer the
call to let go of the past, release the victim archetype
and be more aware of life occurring in the moment.
There are some prerequisites, however, to doing so.
First, the receptivity that Radical Forgiveness ultimately
depends upon requires our being open to seeing things
from a spiritual standpoint. It references no particular
religion and excludes none, but it does require at least
a belief in a Higher Power or Higher Intelligence and
the idea of a spiritual reality beyond our own physical
world. A strictly atheistic viewpoint would not allow Radi-
cal Forgiveness to occur, nor RFT to work. We shall
see that to make Radical Forgiveness a reality in our
lives, we need to be comfortable with the idea that we
can walk in both worlds simultaneously.
Having said that, Radical Forgiveness can be ex-
plained in non-threatening terms and in such language
as to honor all people's religious beliefs. It can be ex-
plained in ways that provide a fit with their existing be-
lief systems, thus allowing them to listen with comfort.
Besides that, a substantial part of Radical Forgiveness
Therapy does not depend upon mystical or esoteric
ideas for its validity. Repression, denial, and projec-
tion all are concepts firmly rooted in psychological
theory
.
Therefore, these mechanisms can be explained
fully in scientific terms.
I cannot stress enough that mixing traditional therapy
with RFT will not work. The questions and the assump-
tions underlying the two forms are just too different. Any
therapist who adds RFT to his or her tool kit must first
of all be aware of the distinctions between RFT and
traditional therapy and be able to clearly differentiate
them to a client and, second, must work hard to keep
them separated.
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In the main, Radical Forgiveness Therapy will be for
people who are not in the least mentally sick — just
needing some help dealing with the issues of daily life.
However, if a person has profound issues and deeply
repressed pain with complex defense mechanisms in
place, that person should be referred to a qualified psy-
chotherapist who also uses RFT.
The technology of Radical Forgiveness is deceptively
simple and yet amazingly effective as therapy for the
soul, — for individuals, groups, races, and even coun-
tries. For example, I have held workshops for Jews and
other persecuted people who hold the pain of their race
or group and have witnessed amazing shifts in their
consciousness. They have been able to let go of the
collective pain and in so doing, I believe, to help heal
the collective consciousness of that group many gen-
erations back. In 2001, I applied this modality to help
heal the 200-year-old story that began when the first
English convicts arrived in Australia and began the sys-
tematic decimation of the aboriginal people. There is
a great desire within the white population in Australia
at this time to say “Sorry,” and for the aboriginal people
to forgive, so that both may move on and become one
Australia. In my book, 
Reconciliation Through Radi-
cal Forgiveness,
published only in Australia, I argue
that only a spiritual technology like Radical Forgiveness
can bring reconciliation about, and I have given them
the tools to make it a reality. I will take it to other places
in the world where there are racial divisions, including
the U.S., and do the same thing.
Training and certification in Radical Forgiveness
Coaching and Therapy is available through the