Copyright 2001, Colin C. Tipping

2 (a)
CONFRONTING X: 
I am upset with you because:
You have ruined our marriage. You have hurt
me and rejected me. Your behavior stinks and I
am going to leave you, you bastard!
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2b.
It is vitally important that you allow yourself to feel
your feelings. Do not censor them or 
stuff
them. Re-
member, we came into the physical realm to experi-
ence emotion — the essence of being human. All emo-
tions are good, except when we suppress them. Stuff-
ing emotion creates potentially harmful energy blocks
in our bodies.
Make sure the emotions you identify represent real emo-
tions that you actually feel, not just 
thoughts
about how
you feel. Are you 
mad, glad, sad, 
or
 afraid? 
If you
cannot be specific, that is okay. Some people find
themselves unable to differentiate one feeling from an-
other. If that holds true for you, just notice what general
emotional quality you can feel around the situation.
If you would like to feel your emotions more clearly or
strongly, pick up a tennis racquet or a bat and beat the
heck out of some cushions or pillows. Use something
that will make a noise when you hit the cushions. If
anger scares you, have someone with you when you
do this exercise. That person should encourage and
support you in feeling your anger (or any other emo-
tion) and make it safe to do so. Screaming into a cush-
ion also helps release feelings. As I have stressed many
times, the more you allow yourself to feel the hurt, sad-
ness, or fear that might lie beneath your anger, the bet-
ter.
3.
I lovingly recognize and accept my
feelings and judge them no more.