Copyright 2001, Colin C. Tipping

Anger Addiction Warning
A note of caution needs to be sounded here. It be-
comes all too easy to get addicted to anger. Anger
feeds on itself and easily becomes resentment. Re-
sentment relishes going over and over an old hurt, con-
stantly revisiting the pain associated with it and vent-
ing the resultant anger in some form. It becomes a
powerful addiction in and of itself.
We must realize that anger that persists serves no use-
ful purpose. Consequently, once the energy of anger
has been allowed to flow as feeling, we should use the
energy to create a positive outcome. Maybe we need
to set a boundary or a condition on future interactions
with the person around whom our anger revolves. Per-
haps we can make a decision of some kind, such as to
be willing to feel compassion for the person or to for-
give the person. Only when used as the catalyst for
positive change, self-empowerment or forgiveness will
we prevent the anger from becoming an addictive cycle.
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20: Making Room for the Miracle
T
he Radical Forgiveness worksheet has literally
changed thousands of people's lives. It is not
easy to explain how and why it accomplishes
such dramatic results except to say that it helps people
shift their energy. In fact, you could say that doing the
worksheet is, in and of itself, an energy experience. It
is analogous to that provided by the homeopathic rem-
edy, except here the secret ingredient is the willingness
to forgive — even when you don't feel like it. The
worksheet is simply a way of expressing this willing-
ness. That seems to release the stuck energy in the
situation, which then seems to resolve itself automati-
cally.
Now that you have read the book, you will understand
that, any time anyone upsets you or triggers negative
emotion, it's an 
opportunity to heal.
Where before you
would have been sucked into the drama, now you can
reach for a worksheet and start the forgiveness pro-
cess.
Keep doing worksheets until the energy around the situ-
ation, person, or incident dissipates. This could take
days or months. On the other hand, maybe just one
worksheet will produce the desired result. It all depends
on what is being resonated and the emotion being trig-
gered.
The worksheet shown on the previous two pages can
be enlarged and photocopied, but you might prefer to
download a full-size one from our web site. (See next
page).
Completing the worksheet requires a reasonable grasp
of the principles underlying Radical Forgiveness and
the following 
notes
serve as a reminder of them. The
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relevant parts of the worksheet are highlighted and by
way of example, 
filled in
as 
if Jill had completed it at
the time she was going through the situation with Jeff
as portrayed in Jill's Story, Part 1.
When we start with Radical Forgiveness, we have a
tendency to want to do too many worksheets on too
many people from our list, and to work immediately with
the major issues of the past.
However, one of Radical Forgiveness' best character-
istics lies in the fact that we do not have to dig up the
past to heal it. Whoever is upsetting you 
right now
is the
person who represents ALL the people who have ever
upset you for the same reason in the past. So work
with that person first, even if you're thinking that it's no
big deal. If it's upsetting you, it
 is
a big deal. It could
easily lead you to what really matters.
You might want to start with the smaller issues: ones
that are fairly simple and without a great deal of emo-
tional charge. Small problems grow into big ones if
they are not dealt with, so you will be doing important
work even with seemingly trivial situations. Besides
that, it is much easier to learn how to create the neces-
sary shifts in perception with simpler, less traumatic situ-
ations. Leave the big ones for later.
You might want to date and number these sheets and
then file them. This allows you to review them from time
to time and to evaluate the extent to which your con-
sciousness has changed. Alternatively, you might want
to do a ritual burning of them as part of the process.