All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

laws whenever she goes and visits her own parents.
Even 
though she only brings some sweets, or whatever else, it will, 
Insha-Allaah Ta`ala have a positive effect on the recipient, be it 
your mother, father, sisters, nieces, etc. 
If there is still always strife and discord between the wife and 
parents, and you are not within the means to afford a separate 
home, 
then at least make some arrangements to have a 
separate kitchen for your wife.
Status of the husband 
 
Question: 
A woman’s husband is not handsome and this led to 
her being un-attracted to him. Her living with him has become 
difficult and she seeks a 
khula. 
Her parents have told her that it 
is a sin for her to call her husband ‘ugly’. She maintains that to 
‘idolise’ a husband is the trait of the Hindus and that Islaam 
allows for mutual contentment and happiness for both partners. 
Living with her husband has become a faux existence and a 
mere charade, hence she seeks a 
khula
. The question is whether 
the wife should ‘idolise’ her husband or not? If this is the case, 
then the ‘disrespect’ shown by the wife (by disliking her 
husband’s features) would be tantamount to a great sin. 
Answer:
Allaah Ta`ala has made the man the 
Haakim
(ruler/governor) of his wife. However, he is neither her true 
provider nor is he to be ‘idolised’. He is not allowed to oppress 
his wife, abuse her or belittle and disgrace her. That husband 
who exceeds the bounds with regard his wife is amongst the 
worst specimens on earth. A man is supposed to treat his wife 
kindly. As for those how have been oppressive in the past, they 
should seek forgiveness. 
To regard the husband as a ‘god-like’ figure is the trait of the 
Hindus and not Muslims. However, the wife should hold her 
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husband in high esteem and grant him due honour and dignity, 
to such an extent that she should not address by his name, but 
rather use some suitable and appropriate term of endearment. 
However, if the wife does not like her husband due to perhaps 
his features, character, impiety, etc. then she does have the 
option of requesting 
Khula
.