All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

should recite 
Yaa Lateefo
 seven times, blow in a drink and 
give the child. 
 
Is it appropriate that we now also act like children when 
dealing with them? Deal with children with wisdom and do 
not allow their antics to sour the relationships of adults.
In essence, a husband should not act on what his wife tells him 
and speak harshly with his mother, sisters, or whoever his wife 
complained about. 
Dealing harshly with one’s mother is 
detrimental to one’s Aakhirah.
Even if one’s mother is at 
fault, then one should 
approach the subject with wisdom and 
speak kindly to her, preferably through the eldest sister. 
The husband should send gifts to his mother via his wife.
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said that the giving of gifts 
increases mutual affection. Insha-Allaah Ta`ala this will 
enhance the affection between the wife and her mother-in-law. 
A simple recipe for engendering mutual love for 
the in-laws 
A simple and effective recipe for engendering mutual affection 
between your wife and family is 
to occasionally acquire a gift 
and let your wife give it to your mother. You should also 
encourage her to bring something, albeit small, for her in-

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laws whenever she goes and visits her own parents.
Even 
though she only brings some sweets, or whatever else, it will, 
Insha-Allaah Ta`ala have a positive effect on the recipient, be it 
your mother, father, sisters, nieces, etc. 
If there is still always strife and discord between the wife and 
parents, and you are not within the means to afford a separate 
home, 
then at least make some arrangements to have a