All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Remember that when a husband returns home, tired and 
exhausted from the day’s work, then he seeks peace and 
solace at home and not arguments and complaints. Just as 
your complaints about your in-laws may not bode well for 
them, it does you equal harm. If you heed this advice of 
mine, Insha-Allaah Ta`ala you will see and witness the 
benefits in this very world. 
At the same time, our advice 
to the grooms is that if their 
wives do ever come to them with complaints, then they 
should bear it with patience and offer some suitable 
solution. He should not become angry and scold his wife, 
because he may say such things which he will forever 
regret.
On the other hand, he should not side with his wife and 
say something untoward to his mother, because hurting her 
feelings will be to his detriment. 
He should not accept just about everything his wife tells him 
and realise that women do have the habit of complaining and 
also that they are the weaker gender with deficient intellect. 
He 
should handle all such matters with wisdom.
He should not listen to the complaints and counter-complaints. 
If he does hear them, then it should not affect him. 
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If there is ever a problem with the groom’s brother’s or 
sister’s children, then the couple should regard those 
children as their own and not bear malice and grudges. 
The children should be pacified and perhaps given a sweet 
or two and affectionately advised. If children are stubborn 
or unruly, then an excellent remedy is to recite 
Bismillah hir 
Rahmaan nir Raheem
seven times and blow on their food 
and drink. This should be done ever so often. Similarly, one