Why Men Love Bitches

You have to show that you won’t accept
mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.
When faced with an independent woman, a guy is too busy trying
to keep his “welcome” to get bored. But with a financially
dependent woman, he thinks he can slack off and 
she’ll take it.
Even if he isn’t the type to mistreat a woman, he’ll grow bored if he
gets the sense that she’ll take whatever he dishes out.
You don’t have to be rich; you just have to maintain the ability to
take care of yourself. This directly relates to whether he’s respectful
at all times. He can’t buy you a dinner because you’re hungry. It has
to be a gift that he chooses to give and that you choose to receive.
Then the gifts keep coming.
Jeanette told me about how her ex-husband had made her feel
when he was the only one working. She recalled:
He was a surgeon and made a lot of money. But for four
years, I didn’t own a coat. I felt that I couldn’t justify
spending a couple of hundred dollars on a good coat

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when I wasn’t bringing any money in. So I would wear
jackets that I had owned since high school, or I would
borrow his coats. The minute I went out and got a
parttime job, I felt so much better about myself. Not only
because I could buy things, but because I didn’t have to
ask him for everything.
If you can take care of yourself, everything he gives you becomes
gravy. He isn’t providing the whole meatloaf. The whole four
courses. He doesn’t provide you with your livelihood.
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #78
Your pink slip is maintained when you can stand
on your own—with him or without him.
He should never feel that you are
completely at his mercy.
Susan B. Anthony said, “I never felt I could give up my life of
freedom to become a man’s housekeeper.” It 
isn’t
about whether a
woman is a man’s housekeeper or whether she’s bringing in “dollar
for dollar” that’s important. And it also isn’t about whether she
stays at home to raise children, because this is even harder work.
The variable is this: Whether a woman 
has the resources or ability
to leave if and when she wants to go.
When a man financially supports a woman completely, one of
two things will happen:

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1. He’ll begin to feel “locked in,” or trapped in a deadend
situation.
2. He’ll begin to view her as a little girl.
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #79