Why Men Love Bitches

When a woman acts as though she’s capable
of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.
For this reason, be careful how you set the tone in the beginning.
Never start what you don’t want to continue. If you don’t want to
cook every night, don’t start out cooking every night. If you don’t
want to go to the grocery store all the time, don’t set the pattern of
doing it all the time. Let him come your way.
In the beginning, men are so willing to make an impression, and
this is why they are especially accommodating. This is precisely
when you’ll want to help him form good habits. Later, when
everything has been done for him, he’ll be too set in his ways to
change.

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For example, after a few dates you may find yourself standing
under the arch of your front door, kissing him good night. It’s a
moment to behold. The stars are twinkling, the moonlight is
breathtaking, and you both look up to find a shooting star. He’ll
barely notice your kitchen trash is under his left arm.
If a man offers to take you to lunch or dinner, let him. If he asks if
he can bring over takeout, bring on the egg rolls. If he asks to get
you something from the grocery store, let him pick up sorbet in the
flavor you like. It isn’t about him paying the three dollars. It makes
him happy to feel he’s meeting your needs. And it makes him feel as
if he’s “driving that train.” Even though you really are.
The hardest lesson for the nice girl to learn is how to receive. Let
him give to you, because part of his manhood is defined by feeling
“responsible.”
The dumb fox doesn’t give up power, she simply creates the
appearance that she does. And this very much helps her positioning
power because she gets what she wants.
Here’s a classic example. A woman I know named Michelle told
me about a man she’s seeing. On the second date, he asked her if
she’d drive to his place. She was put on the spot and then pulled a
dumb fox move. She ignored the request and very sweetly asked,
“Would you prefer to get together another night? If tonight is
inconvenient, I do understand.”
Michelle averted the question completely. She didn’t act upset or
tell him what to do. She simply gave him a couple of alternatives,

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one of which is that she may not participate. Then she let 
him
choose.
The beauty is that the dumb fox is agreeable, tactful, and always
polite, so he thinks he’s in control (even though he isn’t). Even
though the dumb fox 
appears
oblivious, she is very aware. It’s no
different than a successful business negotiation:
1. She doesn’t spell out where she’s coming from.
2. She’s prepared to walk away, if the terms aren’t favorable to
her.
The dumb fox does both, without words. She negotiates with her
willingness (or lack thereof) to participate. If the offer sounds good,
she says, “I’d love to.” If the offer doesn’t sound good, she
answers, “I’d love to, but I’m pooped.” She responds favorably
when he behaves like a gentleman and backs off in a subtle way if
his manners fall short.
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #39