The
tension
that arises with a slightly bitchy
woman gives a subtle feeling of danger to a man.
He feels slightly unsure because she is never
in the palm of his hand.
Think about what things men collect, or the things that fascinate
them. Guns, ammunition, sports cards, sci-fi magazines, pocket
knives, little metal cars, power tools, and a “rechargeable” flashlight.
(Your job is to act riveted. “Wow, rechargeable?”) Oh, and let’s
not forget the “priceless” collection of little army men (just to die
for) and the high-speed stuff: cars, Jet Skis, motorcycles, and
airplanes.
The nice girl makes the mistake of nurturing a man and making
him feel too “safe.” Men get bored very easily, which is why too
much predictability and safety makes the relationship seem
monotonous
to him. With the bitch, it isn’t monotonous.
The nice girl buries her head in the sand when she ignores a
man’s need for stimulation, danger, or “a challenge.” This is to her
detriment. She’s like an ostrich. When an ostrich sees a hunting
animal, instead of facing the tiger head-on, it’ll bury its head in the
sand. Hence, it becomes “din din.”
The bitch takes the head-on approach, but the nice girl takes the
“buried head” approach. The bitch sees what’s actually there.
The
nice girl sees what she wants to see.
In the first month alone, here’s what the “nice girl” will do . . .
She’ll give him a foot massage. Then she’ll cook eggs with six
ingredients and pancakes on the side. She’ll drive to do his laundry
and iron his shirts. Then she’ll read him poems and want to cuddle
all day. After he dumps her, she’ll say, “I can’t believe he did this to
me!”
Many women believe that men want a woman who will do . . .
whatever
they tell her to do. In theory, men want this. But in
practice, when they actually get it,
they’ll tire of it almost
instantaneously.
The minute a man thinks he can “do no wrong” in your eyes and
you’ll accept anything he dishes out, you’ve already “waved a white
flag” with regard to his having the hots for you. His desire will come
to a screeching halt.
Don’t buy the one about him wanting a “damsel in distress,”
either. As one man said, “When you rescue a damsel in distress, all
you get stuck with is a distressed damsel.”
The notion that a woman has to “spill her guts out” in order to
truly be in love isn’t a sign of love, it’s about becoming “din din.” He
sees a docile woman and he says to himself, “Oh, no. A cling-on.
Am I going to have to carry around this bag of Jell-O forever?”
Once he realizes this, he calls less often or stops calling altogether—
after
he has sex with her.
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #97
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