The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It


WILLPOWER EXPERIMENT: FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL



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WILLPOWER EXPERIMENT: FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL,
BUT DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK
When an upsetting thought comes to mind, try the technique that Goldin teaches his subjects.
Instead of instantly trying to distract yourself from it, let yourself notice the thought. Oftentimes,
our most disturbing thoughts are familiar—the same worry, the same self-criticism, the same
memory. “What if something goes wrong?” “I can’t believe I did that. I’m so stupid.” “If only
that hadn’t happened. What could I have done differently?” These thoughts pop up like a song
that gets stuck in our heads, seemingly out of nowhere, but then is impossible to get rid of. Let
yourself notice whether the upsetting thought is an old, familiar tune—that’s your first clue that it
is 
not
critically important information you need to believe. Then shift your attention to what you
are feeling in your body. Notice if there is any tension present, or changes to your heart rate or
breathing. Notice if you feel it in your gut, your chest, your throat, or anywhere else in your body.
Once you’ve observed the thought and feelings, shift your attention to your breathing. Notice how
it feels to breathe in and breathe out. Sometimes the upsetting thought and feelings naturally
dissipate when you do this. Other times, they will keep interrupting your attention to your breath.
If this happens, imagine the thought and feelings like clouds passing through your mind and body.
Keep breathing, and imagine the clouds dissolving or floating by. Imagine your breath as a wind
that dissolves and moves the clouds effortlessly. You don’t need to make the thought go away;
just stay with the feeling of your breath.
Notice that this technique is not the same thing as believing or ruminating over a thought. The
opposite of thought suppression is accepting the presence of the thought—not believing it.
You’re accepting that thoughts come and go, and that you can’t always control what thoughts
come to mind. You don’t have to automatically accept the 
content
of the thought. In other words,
you might say to yourself, “Oh well, there’s that thought again—worries happen. That’s just the


way the mind works, and it doesn’t necessarily mean anything.” You’re not saying to yourself,
“Oh well, I guess it’s true. I am a terrible person and terrible things are going to happen to me,
and I guess I need to accept it.”
This same practice can be used for any distracting thought or upsetting emotion, including
anger, jealousy, anxiety, or shame.
After trying this technique a few times, compare it with the results you get from trying to
push away upsetting thoughts and emotions. Which is more effective at giving you peace of
mind?



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