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Becoming a Transition Person
 
Among other things, I believe that giving "wings" to our children and to others means 
empowering them with the freedom to rise above negative scripting that had been passed 
down to us. I believe it means becoming what my friend and associate, Dr. Terry Warner, 
calls a "transition" person. Instead of transferring those scripts to the next generation, we 
can change them. And we can do it in a way that will build relationships in the process
If your parents abused you as a child, that does not mean that you have to abuse your 
own children. Yet there's plenty of evidence to indicate that you will tend to live out that 
script. But because you're proactive, you can rewrite the script. You can choose not only 
not to abuse your children, but to affirm them, to script them in positive ways.
You can write it in your personal mission statement and into your mind and heart. You 
can visualize yourself living in harmony with that mission statement in your Daily 
Private Victory. You can take steps to love and forgive your own parents, and if they are 
still living, to build a positive relationship with them by seeking to understand.
A tendency that's run through your family for generations can stop with you. You're a 
transition person -- a link between the past and the future. And your own change can 
affect many, many lives downstream.
One powerful transition person of the twentieth century, Anwar Sadat, left us as part of 
his legacy a profound understanding of the nature of change. Sadat stood between a past 
that had created a "huge wall of suspicion, fear, hate and misunderstanding" between 
Arabs and Israelis, and a future in which increased conflict and isolation seemed 
inevitable. Efforts at negotiation had been met with objections on every scale -- even to 
formalities and procedural points, to an insignificant comma or period in the text of 
proposed agreements.
While others attempted to resolve the tense situation by hacking at the leaves, Sadat drew 
upon his earlier centering experience in a lonely prison cell and went to work on the root. 
And in doing so, he changed the course of history for millions of people.
He records in his autobiography:
It was then that I drew, almost unconsciously, on the inner strength I had developed in 
Cell 54 of Cairo Central Prison -- a strength, call it a talent or capacity, for change. I found 
that I faced a highly complex situation, and that I couldn't hope to change it until I had 
armed myself with the necessary psychological and intellectual capacity. My 
contemplation of life and human nature in that secluded place had taught me that he who 
cannot change the very fabric of his thought will never be able to change reality, and will 
never, therefore, make any progress.
Change -- real change -- comes from the Inside-Out. It doesn't come from hacking at the 
leaves of attitude and behavior with quick-fix personality ethic techniques. It comes from 
striking at the root -the fabric of our thought, the fundamental, essential paradigms, 
which give definition to our character and create the lens through which we see the 
world. In the words of Amiel:
Moral truth can be conceived in thought. One can have feelings about it. One can will to 
live it. But moral truth may have been penetrated and possessed in all these ways, and 
escape us still. Deeper even than consciousness there is our being itself -- our very 
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substance, our nature. Only those truths which have entered into this last region, which 
have become ourselves, become spontaneous and involuntary as well as voluntary, 
unconscious as well as conscious, are really our life -- that is to say, something more than 
property. So long as we are able to distinguish any space whatever between Truth and us 
we remain outside it. The thought, the feeling, the desire or the consciousness of life may 
not be quite life. To become divine is then the aim of life. Then only can truth be said to 
be ours beyond the possibility of loss. It is no longer outside us, nor in a sense even in us, 
but we are it, and it is we.
Achieving unity -- oneness -- with ourselves, with our loved ones, with our friends and 
working associates, is the highest and best and most delicious fruit of the Seven Habits. 
Most of us have tasted this fruit of true unity from time to time in the past, as we have 
also tasted the bitter, lonely fruit of disunity -- and we know how precious and fragile 
unity is.
Obviously building character of total integrity and living the life of love and service that 
creates such unity isn't easy. It isn't quick fix.
But it's possible. It begins with the desire to center our lives on correct principles, to break 
out of the paradigms created by other centers and the comfort zones of unworthy habits.
Sometimes we make mistakes, we feel awkward. But if we start with the Daily Private 
Victory and work from the Inside-Out, the results will surely come. As we plant the seed 
and patiently weed and nourish it, we begin to feel the excitement of real growth and 
eventually taste the incomparably delicious fruits of a congruent, effective life.
Again, I quote Emerson: "That which we persist in doing becomes easier -- not that the 
nature of the task has changed, but our ability to do has increased."
By centering our lives on correct principles and creating a balanced focus between doing 
and increasing our ability to do, we become empowered in the task of creating effective, 
useful, and peaceful lives...for ourselves, and for our posterity.

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