Stephen R. Covey The 7 Habits of Highly Eff People pdf



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The 7 habits of highly effective people restoring the character

Intergenerational Living
As Sandra and I discovered that wonderful year, the ability to use wisely the gap 
between stimulus and response, to exercise the four unique endowments of our human 
nature, empowered us from the Inside-Out.
We had tried the outside-in approach. We loved each other, and we had attempted to 
work through our differences by controlling our attitudes and our behaviors, by 
practicing useful techniques of human interaction. But our band-aids and aspirin only 
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lasted so long. Until we worked and communicated on the level of our essential 
paradigms, the chronic underlying problems were still there.
When we began to work from the Inside-Out, we were able to build a relationship of trust 
and openness and to resolve dysfunctional differences in a deep and lasting way that 
never could have come by working from the outside in. The delicious fruits -- a rich win-
win relationship, a deep understanding of each other, and a marvelous synergy -- grew 
out of the roots we nurtured as we examined our programs, rescripted ourselves, and 
managed our lives so that we could create time for the important Quadrant II activity of 
communicating deeply with each other.
And there were other fruits. We were able to see on a much deeper level that, just as 
powerfully as our own lives had been affected by our parents, the lives of our children 
were being influenced and shaped by us, often in ways we didn't even begin to realize. 
Understanding the power of scripting in our own lives, we felt a renewed desire to do 
everything we could to make certain that what we passed on to future generations, by 
both precept and example, was based on correct principles.
I have drawn particular attention in this book to those scripts we have been given which 
we proactively want to change. But as we examine our scripting carefully, many of us 
will also begin to see beautiful scripts, positive scripts that have been passed down to us 
which we have blindly taken for granted. Real self-awareness helps us to appreciate those 
scripts and to appreciate those who have gone before us and nurtured us in principle-
based living, mirroring back to us not only what we are, but what we can become.
There is transcendent power in a strong intergenerational family. An effectively 
interdependent family of children, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins can 
be a powerful force in helping people have a sense of who they are and where they came 
from and what they stand for.
It's great for children to be able to identify themselves with the "tribe," to feel that many 
people know them and care about them, even though they're spread all over the country. 
And that can be a tremendous benefit as you nurture your family. If one of your children 
is having difficulty and doesn't really relate with you at a particular time in his life, 
maybe he can relate to your brother or sister who can become a surrogate father or 
mother, a mentor, or a hero for a period of time.
Grandparents who show a great interest in their grandchildren are among the most 
precious people on this earth. What a marvelous positive social mirror they can be! My 
mother is like that. Even now, in her late 80s, she takes a deep personal interest in every 
one of her descendants. She writes us love letters. I was reading one the other day on a 
plane with tears streaming down my cheeks. could call her up tonight and I know she'd 
say, "Stephen, I want you to know how much I love you and how wonderful I think you 
are." She's constantly reaffirming.
A strong intergenerational family is potentially one of the most fruitful, rewarding, and 
satisfying interdependent relationships. And many people feel the importance of that 
relationship. Look at the fascination we all had with Roots some years ago. Each of us has 
roots and the ability to trace those roots, to identify our ancestors.
The highest and most powerful motivation in doing that is not for ourselves only, but for 
our posterity, for the posterity of all mankind. As someone once observed, "There are 
only two lasting bequests we can give our children -- one is roots, the other wings."
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