Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

Instead of saying 
you “can’t stand it” when a man shows up 
late,
say something like, “Everybody is so busy these days—
time sure is precious, isn’t it? I go out of my way to make sure 
that if I say I’m going to be somewhere at 7:00 
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, I’m going 
to be there at 7:00 
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, if not earlier, so that we can do what we 
need to do in a timely manner, and if I’m going to be late, it 
only takes a phone call to be courteous.”
Translation:
You’ve just told him that you require the man in 
your life to show up when he says he’s going to show up, and 
have enough manners and class to call if he’s going to be late. 
Now he knows to leave a few minutes earlier so he gets to you 
on time, and to make sure his cell is charged in case he needs to 
give you a head’s-up.

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Instead of saying,
 “If you’re dating and sleeping with other 
women, I am not the one!”
say something like, “I’m always 
honest with the man I’m dating; if I feel like I want to see other 
people besides him, I let him know up front so that he can 
decide if he wants to continue the relationship as is, or ask me 
to date him exclusively.”
Translation:
You’ve just told him that you require the man in 
your life to be honest and up front about the parameters of the 
relationship—if he’s going to play, he’s going to have to let 
you know so that you can make intelligent, rational decisions 
about how to deal with that. You’ve told him, too, that this is 
up for discussion—that the two of you can decide together 
what it is you want out of the relationship, instead of having it 
dictated to him.
Instead of saying,