7. FUGGETABOUTIT Once you’ve truly forgiven someone, wipe the slate clean. So often we form
judgments about people and then, no matter what they do, we see them
through the lens of that judgment. Which means we’re just waiting for them to
piss us off again. Which means we’re still in the Forvginess-lite stage; we’re
pretending we’re cool but we’re really still holding on to some resentment.
Release all expectations, let everyone off the hook, treat people as a blank slate
over and over again, expect only the best from them regardless of what they’ve
done in the past and you may be surprised. What you focus on, you create
more of, and if you keep expecting people to annoy you they will not let you
down. Focus on their finer points and encourage their good behavior if you
want to create more of it.