Mindset : The New Psychology of Success pdfdrive com

The Fixed-Mindset Reaction.
You’ve always felt sorry for divorced people, abandoned
people. And now you’re one of them. You lose all sense of worth. Your partner,
who knew you intimately, doesn’t want you anymore.
For  months,  you  don’t  feel  like  going  on,  convinced  that  even  your  children
would  be  better  off  without  you.  It  takes  you  a  while  to  get  to  the  point  where
you  feel  at  all  useful  or  competent.  Or  hopeful.  Now  comes  the  hard  part
because,  even  though  you  now  feel  a  little  better  about  yourself,  you’re  still  in
the fixed mindset. You’re embarking on a lifetime of judging. With everything
good that happens, your internal voice says, Maybe I’m okay after all. But with
everything  bad  that  happens,  the  voice  says,  My  spouse  was  right.  Every  new
person you meet is judged too—as a potential betrayer.
How could you rethink your marriage, yourself, and your life from a growth-
mindset perspective? Why were you afraid to listen to your spouse? What could
you have done? What should you do now?