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The courage to be disliked

I’m not well educated, so I’ll just have to try harder
than anyone else
, that would be a desirable direction. The inferiority
complex, on the other hand, refers to a condition of having begun to use
one’s feeling of inferiority as a kind of excuse. So, one thinks to oneself,
I’m not well educated, so I can’t succeed
, or 
I’m not good-looking, so I can’t
get married
. When someone is insisting on the logic of ‘A is the situation,
so B cannot be done’ in such a way in everyday life, that is not something
that fits in the feeling of inferiority category. It is an inferiority complex.
YOUTH:
No, it’s a legitimate causal relationship. If you’re not well educated,
it takes away your chances of getting work or making it in the world.
You’re regarded as low on the social scale, and you can’t succeed. That’s
not an excuse at all. It’s just a cold hard fact, isn’t it?
PHILOSOPHER:
No, you are wrong.


YOUTH:
How? Where am I wrong?
PHILOSOPHER:
What you are calling a causal relationship is something that
Adler explains as ‘apparent cause and effect’. That is to say, you convince
yourself that there is some serious causal relationship where there is none
whatsoever. The other day, someone told me, ‘The reason I can’t get
married easily is that my parents got divorced when I was a child.’ From the
viewpoint of Freudian aetiology (the attributing of causes), the parents’
divorce was a great trauma, which connects in a clear causal relationship
with one’s views on marriage. Adler, however, with his stance of teleology
(the attributing of purpose), rejects such arguments as ‘apparent cause and
effect’.
YOUTH:
But even so, the reality is that having a good education makes it
easier to be successful in society. I had thought you were wise to the ways
of the world.
PHILOSOPHER:
The real issue is how one confronts that reality. If what you
are thinking is, 
I’m not well educated, so I can’t succeed
, then instead of 
I
can’t succeed
, you should think, 
I don’t want to succeed
.
YOUTH:
I don’t want to succeed? What kind of reasoning is that?
PHILOSOPHER:
It’s simply that it’s scary to take even one step forward; also,
that you don’t want to make realistic efforts. You don’t want to change so
much that you’d be willing to sacrifice the pleasures you enjoy now—for
instance, the time you spend playing and engaged in hobbies. In other
words, you’re not equipped with the 
courage
to change your lifestyle. It’s
easier with things just as they are now, even if you have some complaints or
limitations.


BRAGGARTS HAVE FEELINGS OF
INFERIORITY
YOUTH:
Maybe so, but …
PHILOSOPHER:
Further, you harbour an inferiority complex about education
and think, 
I’m not well educated, so I can’t succeed
. Put the other way
around, the reasoning can be, 
If only I were well educated, I could be really
successful
.
YOUTH:
Hmm, true.
PHILOSOPHER:
This is the other aspect of the inferiority complex. Those who
manifest their inferiority complexes in words or attitudes, who say that ‘A
is the situation, so B cannot be done’, are implying that if only it were not
for A, I’d be capable and have value.
YOUTH:
If only it weren’t for this, I could do it, too.
PHILOSOPHER:
Yes. As Adler points out, no one is capable of putting up with
having feelings of inferiority for a long period of time. Feelings of
inferiority are something that everyone has, but staying in that condition is
too heavy to endure forever.
YOUTH:
Huh? This is getting pretty confusing.
PHILOSOPHER:
Okay, let’s go over things one at a time. The condition of
having a feeling of inferiority is a condition of feeling some sort of lack in
oneself in the present situation. So then, the question is—


YOUTH:
How do you fill in the part that’s missing, right?
PHILOSOPHER:
Exactly. How to compensate for the part that is lacking. The
healthiest way is to try to compensate through striving and growth. For
instance, it could be by applying oneself to one’s studies, engaging in
constant training or being diligent in one’s work. However, people who
aren’t equipped with that courage end up stepping into an inferiority
complex. Again, it’s thinking, 

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