Games People Play

Thesis
: See if you can present a solution I can't find fault with. 
Aim
: Reassurance. Roles: Helpless person, Advisers. Dynamics: Surrender conflict (oral). 
Examples
: (1) Yes, but I can't do my homework now because. . . . (2) Helpless wife. Social 
Paradigm
: Adult-Adult. 
Adult: "What do you do if. . . ." Adult: "Why don't you. . . ." 
Adult: "Yes, but. . . ." Psychological Paradigm: Parent-Child. 
Parent: "I can make you grateful for my help." Child: "Go ahead and try." 
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Moves
: CO Problem-Solution. (2) Objection-Solution. (3) Objection-Disconcertion. 
Advantages
: (1) Internal Psychological—reassurance. (2) External Psychological—avoids 
surrender. (3) Internal Social-YDYB, Parental role. (4) External Social-YDYB, Child role, (5) 
Biological—rational discussion. (6) Existential—Everybody wants to dominate me. 
REFERENCES 
1. von Chamisso, Adalbert. Peter Schlemihl. David McKay & Company, Philadelphia, J929. 
2. de Rock, Paul. One of the most popular works of this nineteenth-century librettist and novelist is 
A Good-Natured Fellow, about a man who gives away too much. 
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CHAPTER NINE 
Sexual Games 
SOME games are played to exploit or fight off sexual impulses. These are all, in effect, perversions 
of the sexual instincts in which the satisfaction is displaced from the sexual act to the crucial 
transactions which constitute die payoff of the game. This cannot always be demonstrated 
convincingly, because such games are usually played in privacy, so that clinical information about 
them has to be obtained secondhand, and the informant's bias cannot always be satisfactorily 
evaluated. The psychiatric conception of homosexuality, for example, is heavily skewed, because 
the more aggressive and successful "players" do not often come for psychiatric treatment, and die 
available material mostly concerns the passive partners. 
The games included here are: "Let's You and Him Fight," "Perversion," "Rapo," "Stocking Game" 
and "Uproar," In most cases, the agent is a woman. This is because the hard forms of sexual games 
in which' the man is the agent verge on or constitute criminality, and properly belong in the 
Underworld section. On the other side, sexual games and marital games overlap, but the ones 
described here are readily available to unmarried people as well as to spouses.