Copyright 2001, Colin C. Tipping

Recognize When You’re Projecting
As soon as you find yourself judging someone, you
know you are projecting. Anger serves as the constant
companion of projection, for the Ego uses this emotion
in its attempt to justify the projection of guilt. Whenever
you get angry, you also know you are projecting your
own guilt.
What you find so objectionable about another person
simply serves as a reflection of that part of you that you
have rejected and denied in yourself (your shadow) and
projected onto them instead. If this were not so, you
would not be upset.
This concept — 
what we attack and judge in others
is really what we condemn in ourselves
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is the
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central idea behind Radical Forgiveness and the key
to our own soul-level healing.
Resonance
We feel victimized by other people precisely because
they resonate with our own guilt, anger, fear, or rage.
(See next chapter.) It feels like they are 
doing some-
thing to us
to make us angry. When we own that the
feelings begin with us, not with them, we can drop the
need to feel victimized.
The Attack/Defense Cycle
Though repression and projection are meant as tem-
porary relief valves for the psyche, the Ego co-opted
them as the means to maintain itself. Remember, the
Ego simply consists of a set of beliefs, the central one
being that we are separate from God. Following from
that belief comes the belief that God is after us, and
when he catches us he will punish us severely. The
Ego uses the dynamics of repression and projection to
hide these beliefs, as well as the guilt and fear that ac-
companies them, from our consciousness. Hence, re-
pression and projection become a permanent way of
being for us. Our whole life revolves around our con-
tinual repression, denial, and projection, all of which
are maintained in perpetuity by the never-ending fear/
attack and defense/attack cycles. This provides a per-
fect recipe for continual internal conflict.