B o u t L o V e? Reminders for Being Loving

 
 
Love Is Recognizing the Divine Self 
Love flows when we recognize our own divine Self in 
another. It flows when we are able to see beyond (or 
behind) the egoic mask to the real Self, which is 
exquisitely lovable and which evokes love. All the 
qualities we love in another are qualities of the divine 
Self, of Essence: compassion, understanding, wisdom, 
kindness, love, patience, and inner strength. 
These are not qualities of the ego, which is innately 
self-centered and focused on its needs. Where are the 
wisdom, compassion, and love in that? Is it any wonder 
that when we are identified with the ego, we don’t feel 
very lovable? The ego is not very lovable, but our true 
nature, or Essence, is; and when we are aligned with 
Essence, even our ego and the egos of others are 
experienced as lovable. 
The ego doesn’t know how to love, but the Divine 
in us—Essence—does. Essence loves. It’s also wise, 
understanding, kind, compassionate, sensitive, patient, 
and caring. Anything you would want a lover or another 

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human being to be comes from Essence, not from the 
ego. 
The love that the ego has to offer is tainted by self-
interest. “What’s in it for me?” lingers in the background 
of every interaction between those who are aligned with 
their egos. This is not love, but manipulation disguised 
as love or kindness. It may be better than undisguised 
manipulation, but it’s still not love in its purest sense. 
The ego and love can’t inhabit the same space. One 
must go. 
Pure love can only come from Essence, which is 
unadulterated goodness. Essence loves because it feels 
good to love and for no other reason. Essence loves 
because it is its nature to love; we love because it is our 
nature to love. 
From
 Choosing Love 

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