All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

 
The three stages of rectifying a woman
The Qur`aan Majeed has prescribed to us the manner in which 
to conduct our affairs. If there is any matter which the husband 
finds distasteful in his wife, then he should reflect on her good 
side and overlook her faults. However, if the husband still feels 
that there are some such qualities and bad traits in his wife 

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if you search deeply enough, you will surely find some good in 
it. 
Turn your attention towards the good qualities of your wife
Allaah Ta`ala says in the Qur`aan Majeed, 
“And if you dislike 
them, then it is possible that you dislike a thing wherein Allaah 
has placed much goodness.”
[Surah Nisaa, Aayat 19] 
Therefore you should reflect on the good qualities of your wife, 
because this will grant you solace and comfort and also save 
you from much heartache. 
An anecdote of a buzrug wherein there is lesson to ponder
Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi (rahmatullah alayh) 
mentions an incident regarding a buzrug whose wife was very 
ill-tempered. She would constantly quarrel and fight with her 
husband. As soon as he would enter the house she would begin 
her tirade of insults, scorn and abuse. Someone asked the 
buzrug as to why he tolerates this constant tirade of abuse. 
They suggested that he divorce the woman. The buzrug replied, 
“Brother, it is simple for me to give a divorce. I can give one 
whenever I please, but although this wife of mine has so many 
evil traits, there is one good habit of hers, because of which I 
will never divorce her. Allaah Ta`ala has placed the quality of 
faithfulness and loyalty in her, to such an extent that I am 
certain that if I were to be imprisoned for 50 years, she will 
remain faithful to me and sit waiting for me in one place 
without casting glances all over. This is such a quality which 
has no monetary value.”