All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

When you search for goodness, you will find it
The import of the one who coined this saying is that regardless 
of how useless and worthless a thing may appear, nevertheless, 

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if you search deeply enough, you will surely find some good in 
it. 
Turn your attention towards the good qualities of your wife
Allaah Ta`ala says in the Qur`aan Majeed, 
“And if you dislike 
them, then it is possible that you dislike a thing wherein Allaah 
has placed much goodness.”
[Surah Nisaa, Aayat 19] 
Therefore you should reflect on the good qualities of your wife, 
because this will grant you solace and comfort and also save 
you from much heartache. 
An anecdote of a buzrug wherein there is lesson to ponder
Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi (rahmatullah alayh) 
mentions an incident regarding a buzrug whose wife was very 
ill-tempered. She would constantly quarrel and fight with her 
husband. As soon as he would enter the house she would begin 
her tirade of insults, scorn and abuse. Someone asked the 
buzrug as to why he tolerates this constant tirade of abuse. 
They suggested that he divorce the woman. The buzrug replied, 
“Brother, it is simple for me to give a divorce. I can give one 
whenever I please, but although this wife of mine has so many 
evil traits, there is one good habit of hers, because of which I 
will never divorce her. Allaah Ta`ala has placed the quality of 
faithfulness and loyalty in her, to such an extent that I am 
certain that if I were to be imprisoned for 50 years, she will 
remain faithful to me and sit waiting for me in one place 
without casting glances all over. This is such a quality which 
has no monetary value.”