All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

What right does the wife have over us?
“It has been recorded by Hadhrat Muaawiyah bin Haida 
(radhiallahu anhu) that he asked Nabi (sallallahu alayhi 
wasallam), ‘O Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam)! What 
rights do our wives have on us?’ He replied, ‘That you feed 
them when you feed yourself, clothe them when you clothe 
yourself, that you do not strike them on their faces and insult or 
belittle them and do not leave them except in the home.”
Abu 
Dawood, Hadith number 2142] 
Leave their beds
As mentioned before, one of the measures taken when 
attempting to reform your wife, you should separate from their 
beds. This is merely as a lesson for her. You should sleep on 
another bed in the house. It does not mean that you leave the 
house and sleep somewhere away from the home. 
Such separation is not permissible
The Ulama have written that when separating your bed from 
your wife, you should not close all relations with her. It does 
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not mean that you stop talking to her and that you don’t even 
make salaam to her. You should not ignore her if she greets you 
or asks you about some important matter. Such separation and 
isolation is impermissible. 
Obtaining the wife’s permission before undertaking a 
journey longer than four months
Under the commentary of the Hadith, the Fuqahaa have 
deduced that it is not permissible for a man to stay away from 
home longer than four months without his wife’s permission. 
Hadhrat Umar (radhiallahu anhu) was particular on this that her 
would not allow the Mujaahideen to remain away from home 
for more than four months at a time. The Fuqahaa have written 
that if a man desires to be away from home for anything less 
than four months then he does not require the consent of his 
wife, but if he is going to be away for four months or more, 
then he requires her happy consent. This ruling applies 
regardless of how important his journey is. Even if he is going 
for Hajj, then he needs her consent if he is going to be away for 
more than four months. This applies to all Deeni journeys as 
well, whether it be Tableegh Jamaat, Jihaad, etc. 
When this is the case for important Deeni journeys then all the 
more will it apply to business and other pleasurable journeys. If 
a man stays away from home for more than four months, 
without her consent, then he is depriving his wife of her right 
and he is committing a grave sin.